Month: April 2017

Are you stuck in traffic?

Are you stuck in traffic?

I’m writing today’s blog from the back seat of my awesome Xterra that’s wrapped in Lauri’s Lemonade Stand advertising and on our way to the Sea Otter Bicycle Classic in Monterey, CA.  (If you read last week’s blog you can see how much I LOVE CYCLING!)  My hubby is driving and our friend Mitch is tagging along from our infamous Brew Crew that rides mountain bikes every Thursday afternoon and we are stuck in Santa Barbara traffic – it’s something we’ve learned to just count on and figure into our driving time with every trip through this area.

And there’s the hook for this week’s blog 🙂  Traffic in the form of delays, setbacks, brake lights as far as the eye can see, even some serious accidents.  Accidents that can cause bumps, bruises, or even death.  You can relate to that, right?

Sometimes there are short delays and we just get off course a bit.  We went a little off our budget and need to re-adjust the next month to make up for our over-spending.  We spoke harshly to a loved one and need to make amends.  Some delays are much longer – you’re delayed for an incredibly long time – I’ve even had moments where they’ve shut down the freeway and we’ve been sitting for hours!

Examples of Life Traffic Delays

In life, the delay can be months or even years.  In my life, a great example is me not graduating high school as a teenager and then graduating as an adult in 2012!  (Hey, don’t judge…when I got my diploma I felt like Super Woman and it has propelled me into awesome, amazing things these last 5 years!)

Graduating high school was not only a delay, but felt like I was looking at miles of brake lights and that it would never end.  I never felt like I missed out of anything by missing prom and only slightly sad that I didn’t become a huge basketball star, but not getting my diploma really stuck with me throughout my life.  But when it was finally a time where it could be corrected, a time where I could focus on it, when it became a priority…I did it!

Delays are Inevitable

One of the things I’ve learned throughout my life is that delays are inevitable, period.  Small ones, medium ones, big ones and everything in between.  You know what else I’ve learned?  There is ALWAYS an end to the delay (setback).  Even when it is something as drastic as a death in the family…time heals and we live on.

If I asked you right now what your current delay was, what would you say?  This is usually a no-brainer – you think of it immediately as soon as I pose the question.  Is it a small delay?  Is it one with brake lights as far as the eye can see?  How do you feel when I ask the question of what your delay is?  Is it something like how you feel in actual traffic?  Anxiety, frustration, stress, maybe a few added curse words to boot?  Or if it’s the long delay with miles of brake lights – it may just be a feeling of depression and sadness that you just can’t shake as you’ve accepted the fact that you’re going to be stuck for awhile.  Either way, there is hope and it will end.

Don’t Give Up

Gordon B Hinckley has a saying that says, “Don’t worry, it will work out.  Things will work out.”  I know that it is hardest to see the end of a delay when you’re in the middle of it.  But I want to re-iterate the resounding word of  Gordon and say that it WILL WORK OUT.  Our delays can be used as learning tools if you let them.  The old cliche’ says there is always a silver lining and I believe that’s true.  Whenever I have come through a struggle or delay, my 20/20 hindsight vision ALWAYS sees that it made me a better person when it was over.

Where Are You Now?

You are in one of three places right now.  1 – You are in the middle of a delay right now.  If this is you, what is your attitude?  Can you find something positive about your situation?  Is there something you can be grateful for right now?  2 – You can see the end, but you’re not there yet.  Hang in there!  You’re almost there!  Start really thinking about the lessons you’ve learned and how you will come into your next delay – can you change something now that will help you better handle your delay next time?  DELAYS ARE INEVITABLE…but how we handle those delays are a testament of what we were and are willing to learn from them.  3 – You’ve made it through the delay – you’re done!  You’re out!  Gear up – because your next delay is coming.  Celebrate your wins, reflect on your lessons learned and take a moment – maybe even in meditation – to contemplate how you’ve grown and what you can do better next time.

You Are Loved

Wherever you are in your journey, please know that you are loved – right here, right now – just how you are.  Please also consider that you never know what other people are going through.  Be kind in your gestures and words to others.  You might make a difference in someone else’s life just because you chose to smile instead of grit your teeth.  Here at Lauri’s Lemonade Stand, you are in a safe place to be loved, feel love, and share love.  If you need love, please reach out.  If you are full of love right now, share it with others.  If you are part of this community – you are already receiving and sharing love.  Spread it, take it…whatever you need.  We are here for you!

The Boring Bliss of Routine

“Life is busy.”  It’s the unmistakably counted on answer when you ask someone the dreaded socially correct question now known as a greeting in our fair culture of “How are you?”.  Is  your response different?  A “fine, how are you?” perhaps?  I’m just as guilty as the next person and it has become habit to say either “fine, how are you?” or if I know them a bit better, “I’m busy”.  And if I hesitate (usually trying to think of how I really am so I can answer honestly) the person asking the question immediately thinks that something must be wrong in my life and jumps to conclusions that who knows what that has formed in their minds from sour milk to my dog dying.

Now that I’ve formed this little rant on the “how are you” question…I HAVE BEEN BUSY! Haha!  I can honestly answer that my life has been busy.  You have to understand that I am crazy OCD and an organizational freakazoid who has dialed in my “to-do list” and my “must-do” list so I’m practically scheduled out every day of the week.  Throw in a trip to Oakland for a family affair, my women’s conference where I was in charge of the almost 50 women volunteers, a couple of relatives popping in to say hello for a few days, and a planned trip coming up for four days the end of this week, and I pretty much throw my perfectly laid out plan out the window.  Well, not all of it…but it does get a bit more stressful and trying to shove 6 days of work into 3 days of time available.

After some recuperating and catching up I realized that sometimes I consider my life boring.  Not bad boring, but routine boring.  The same old things week after week.  The same chores, the same workouts, the same type of work.  Wearing my retainers every night, praying, meditating, daily reading, meals…all of it!  And then I remember my younger adult self.  Scattered, not settled into a career or a happy marriage.  When the dust settled on the last two weeks and as I look forward to this coming weekend trip, I realize that I LOVE the BORING BLISS OF MY ROUTINE.

I love that I’m the first one up every morning because my hubby and puppies are not morning beings.  I love going downstairs and getting a glass of water first thing and putting away the dishes from the night before and laying out my breakfast utensils.  I love writing my morning pages, saying my morning prayers, and doing my daily reading and journaling all before the rest of my household awakes.  I absolutely LOVE everything about Lauri’s Lemonade Stand…from the podcast, to the weekly blog, to Ms Penelope Pickwick’s Bookworm Report every Tuesday (See the latest one HERE).  I love the routine of cooking dinner or just going out if it’s been a long day and that I watch documentaries on Monday nights with my hubby (If you haven’t seen the movie Embrace…I highly recommend it!).

In today’s blog I just want to publicly acknowledge the boring bliss of my routine.  I absolutely love it.  I love the busy moments and the quiet moments.  I love the growth moments and the bliss moments that happen after the growth moments and I realize that I’ve learned something new.  I love the boring bliss of my routine!  The next time someone asks “how are you?” what will you say?

Holiatry (hoh lee a tree)

Holiatry (hoh lee a tree) or holism or wholism is engenders the case of the ENTIRE patient from all aspects including social, psychological, and physical.  Basically, our insides, our outsides, and then how our little person that we created (us) shows up in the world.  Let’s start by defining each of these three subjects, shall we?

Let’s start with physical because that is the easiest to define.  It has everything to do with nourishment and movement.  Basically, diet and exercise…but that sounds boring, right?  I like nourishment and movement much better.  Nourishment is anything you stick in your mouth, breathe in, or otherwise put on your skin.  I believe that a whole food, plant-based diet is the best not only for our physical well-being and it makes me feel like a super-hero, but it also makes me a hero in saving animals and saving the planet.  In other words, I’m out to save the world!  Choosing to eat a whole foods, plant-based diet truly makes me feel like a superhero!  Movement is defined differently for all of us.  Mine is a bit on the aggressive side, but not as aggressive as kickboxers and the martial arts!  Who knows?  Maybe someday…but in the meantime I am a mountain bike enthusiast, a dabbler in running and spend a couple of short bursts in the gym and doing yoga.  What do you do?  It’s different for everyone and THERE IS NO WRONG WAY!  Are you a walker, hiker, swimmer, surfer, cyclist, skier?  I don’t care what it is…dance!  But do something in the movement department!

Next comes psychological which to me sounds much more pleasant when you think of it as your mind and spirit.  Your mind because of knowledge…any kind of knowledge.  Formal education, life experiences, you name it.  Everything having to do with learning and as you saw from my last post, I am a student 4 life!  I don’t want to ever stop learning and becoming.  The other is our precious spirits.  You have a spiritual side of you whether you are in organized religion or not.  Who or what is your higher power?  I believe in God and those who know me or have been on my podcast know that, but I know we are not all in that cookie-cutter life.  Whatever your religious practice…embrace it!  Live it! Love it!  Spirit also includes things like meditation, self-care, your soul, spending time with yourself to learn of your greatest desires.  Sometimes your spiritual self just wants to let go and have some fun!  Let yourself have recess!

That brings us to our third and last part of our whole – Social.  Once you have yourself on a pretty even keel of physical and psychological, it’s time to share your love, knowledge, and service with the world!  It’s time to show up in your companionships and relationships outside of yourself.  A little bit of you given away creates lasting impressions and forges friendships that can change you for the better (or sometimes for the worst)…either way, they are learning experiences to teach you more about yourself and how to be a healthy contributor to your relationships.  How do you show up in the world?

At Lauri’s Lemonade Stand, we are embarking on a journey to explore these three aspects of holiatry and how I can help you in the discovery of self and charging up to that next chapter of our lives with conviction and truth, confidence and love, and kick some serious ass!  Bring it on!  We’ll be ready!

Student 4 Life

Are we there yet?  One of the things I talk about is not believing in Happy Endings.  I don’t believe in happy endings.  While you may be aghast at the thought…let me shed some light on my thinking.

First, fairytale happy endings are not happy endings at all.  All fairytale happy endings just stop when the going got good or hit a high point.  It’s a happy moment, but not a happy ending.  Life goes on and it will not always be a picturesque scene with the perfectly cued music in the background.  Cinderella had to learn how to live with Prince Charming and manage a castle.

Second, I believe that our spirit goes on forever…therefore there is no ending.  I am an eternal being that will never reach the end so therefore I’m not waiting for my happy ending…I better figure it out right now.  If I can’t be happy right now then what’s the point?  This fosters the belief that it’s ok to be happy today and not save it for a tomorrow that might not ever come.

Third and last, I always want to be becoming or arriving.  I don’t want to become or arrive because that denotes an ending.  I don’t want to ask the question, “are we there yet?” because I want to enjoy the journey not just the destination.  Tim Ferris talks about mini-retirements in his book, The 4-Hour WorkWeek because he doesn’t want to arrive at retirement.  He wants to enjoy life in the here and now.  I like that idea.

If yesterday is gone and can only be used as a learning tool and you can’t touch a tomorrow, what does that leave us?  TODAY!!  If you aren’t happy today, then what’s the point?  There is something to be grateful for and happy about every single day, period. Even when going through hard times, there is ALWAYS something to be grateful for and happy about.

Because of all of this I would like to dub myself a Student 4 Life.  I always want to be striving for and learning new things.  I want to be in a constant state of becoming.  At this point in my life I believe I’ve shed the caterpillar part of me and become a butterfly, but my journey doesn’t stop there.  I want to add more color to my wings.

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