Month: May 2019

“The Big Fat Fail” – My Stab at Poetry

Poetry can be inspiring, motivating, heart-wrenching, powerful, but it always inflicts emotion.  It can pull at my heartstrings or just make me laugh.  Writing poetry is a hobby for me and I have decided to keep a notebook in my backpack just for this purpose.  While sitting at the car wash a couple of weeks ago (why does it take them so long?) I penned this one I call The Big Fat Fail.

Enjoy and let me know what emotions you feel when reading it by commenting below.  Feel free to share your stories of taking your “sucking lemons” failing moments and how you turned them into “sweet lemonade”!

Fail Rubber Stamp

The Big Fat Fail

Fail forward, they say!  And I can’t disagree,

but it’s hard to focus while nursing skinned knees.

Bumps, bruises, scrapes, the inevitable aches,

the road rash of crashing, but that’s what it takes.

To live is to fail, that’s the lesson I’ve learned,

through age and experience, or just getting burned.

20/20 vision for me has ALWAYS revealed,

every fail that I’ve suffered has earned me more steel.

Failure = Opportunity! To this I confess,

I love who I am now, having passed or “failed” each test.

Be sad in the moment, scream, cry or kick,

but look for the good, and lickety-split,

you’ll find your opportunity, practice!  Give it a whirl!

The Big Fat Fail can turn (I promise) into your pearl.

Want to read more poetry?

Check out Mary Oliver’s biography here and buy one of her books, House of Light here.

The Art of Holiatry (hoh lee a tree)

The Art of Holiatry Triangle Explained

 

The Art of Holiatry (pronounced “hoh lee a tree”) or holism or wholism engenders the case of the ENTIRE patient from all aspects including social, psychological, and physical.  Basically, our insides, our outsides, and then how our little person that we created (us) shows up in the world.  Let’s start by defining each of the three subjects that make up the Art of Holiatry, shall we?

Physical

Let’s start with physical because that is the easiest to define.  It has everything to do with nourishment and movement.  Basically, diet and exercise…but that sounds boring, right?  I like nourishment and movement much better.  Nourishment is anything you stick in your mouth, breathe in, or otherwise put on your skin.  I believe that a whole food, plant-based diet is the best not only for our physical well-being and it makes me feel like a super-hero, but it also makes me a hero in saving animals and saving the planet.  In other words, I’m out to save the world!  Choosing to eat a whole foods, plant-based diet truly makes me feel like a superhero!

Movement is defined differently for all of us.  Mine is a bit on the aggressive side, but not as aggressive as kickboxers and the martial arts!  Who knows?  Maybe someday…but in the meantime I am a mountain bike enthusiast, a dabbler in running and spend a couple of short bursts in the gym and doing yoga.  What do you do? It’s different for everyone and THERE IS NO WRONG WAY!  Are you a walker, hiker, swimmer, surfer, cyclist, skier?  I don’t care what it is…dance!  But do something in the movement department!

Psychological

Next comes psychological which to me sounds much more pleasant when you think of it as your mind and spirit. Your mind because of knowledge…any kind of knowledge.  Formal education, life experiences, you name it. Everything having to do with learning and as you saw from my last post, I am a student 4 life!  I don’t want to ever stop learning and becoming.  The other is our precious spirits.  You have a spiritual side of you whether you are in organized religion or not.  Who or what is your higher power?  I believe in God and those who know me or have been on my podcast know that, but I know we are not all in that cookie-cutter life.  Whatever your religious practice…embrace it!  Live it! Love it!

Spirit also includes things like meditation, self-care, your soul, spending time with yourself to learn of your greatest desires.  Sometimes your spiritual self just wants to let go and have some fun!  Let yourself have recess!

Social

That brings us to our third and last part of our whole – Social.  Once you have yourself on a pretty even keel of physical and psychological, it’s time to share your love, knowledge, and service with the world!  It’s time to show up in your companionships and relationships outside of yourself.  A little bit of you given away creates lasting impressions and forges friendships that can change you for the better (or sometimes for the worst)…either way, they are learning experiences to teach you more about yourself and how to be a healthy contributor to your relationships.  How do you show up in the world?

Positivity Happens

At Lauri’s Lemonade Stand, we are embarking on a journey to explore these three aspects of holiatry and how I can help you in the discovery of self and charging up to that next chapter of our lives with conviction and truth, confidence and love, and kick some serious ass!  It’s the whole reason I wrote my book last year called Positivity Happens – It’s all about The Art of Holiatry, personal stories in each of the three subjects above and then, guess what?  A 30-Day Positivity Challenge just for you!

Lauri's book, Positivity Happens published in 2018

Student 4 Life

One of the things I talk about pretty often is not believing in Happy Endings.  While you may be aghast at the thought…let me shed some light on my thinking and why I’ve chosen to be a Student 4 Life.

I don’t believe in happy endings.

First, fairytale happy endings are not happy endings at all.  All fairytale happy endings just stop when the going got good or hit a high point.  It’s a happy moment, but not a happy ending.  Life goes on and it will not always be a picturesque scene with the perfectly cued music in the background.  Cinderella had to learn how to live with Prince Charming and manage a castle, after all.

Second, I believe that our spirit goes on forever…therefore there is no ending.  I am an eternal being that will never reach the end so therefore I’m not waiting for my happy ending…I better figure it out right now.  If I can’t be happy right now then what’s the point?  This fosters the belief that it’s ok to be happy today and not save it for a tomorrow that might never come.

Third and last, I always want to be becoming or arriving.  I don’t want to become or arrive because that denotes an ending.  I want to enjoy the journey not just the destination.  Tim Ferris talks about mini-retirements in his book, The 4-Hour WorkWeek because he doesn’t want to arrive at retirement.  He wants to enjoy life in the here and now.  I like that idea.

If yesterday is gone and can only be used as a learning tool and you can’t touch a tomorrow, what does that leave us?

TODAY!!

If you aren’t happy today, then what’s the point?  There is something to be grateful for and happy about every single day, period. Even when going through hard times, there is ALWAYS something to be grateful for and happy about. (Yes, I’m pretty sure that was a PollyAnna moment right there.)

Because of all of this I would like to dub myself a Student 4 Life.  I always want to be striving for and learning new things.  I want to be in a constant state of becoming.  At this point in my life I believe I’ve shed the caterpillar part of me and have become a butterfly, but my journey doesn’t stop there.

I want to add more color to my wings.

Goal Posts 4 of 4 -Accountability

Accountability

Hello, Lemonader’s!  

This is the last post of my Goal Post Series and I am grateful you have taken this journey with me!  I’ve liked having a theme for the month.  Do you?  If so, let me know in the comments so I can plan more themed parties for us!

The last piece of the puzzle is Accountability.  This is a new one for me, but I have so many goals that I wanted to report to someone so my goals wouldn’t get lost in the melee of my big, beautiful life.  At the end of my list of Promises I added one more new category:  Giddy-Up Goal Celebrations.

I wanted to be able to celebrate all of my small wins and be encouraged in my journey.  I ended up with 4 accountabilities (of course, you can have as many or as little as you like).  I have a Podcast Accountability group with two other awesome women that keep me on track with my podcasting goals.  We meet via Skype every Tuesday.  I have a Book-Writing Accountability team member who we simply email each other every Wednesday on our progress and encourage each other.  I have a Speech accountability that I do every Thursday with guess who?  Myself!  And last, but definitely not least, I “hired” my best friend, Lizzie to check in with me monthly and then quarterly on my entire goal list.

And guess what?  She is making me a gold star chart!  How cool is that?  She is most definitely a mom and wanted to make some sort of chart to show my progress and we giggled about gold stars, but then thought…why the heck not?  It will be fun and you can bet I’ll be fighting for each of those earned gold stars!!

Goals are great.  Goals written down are in a much higher percentile to actually happen and get accomplished.  Goals that you have to report back to someone??  Over 90%, baby!  I’m adding this element to rock my Promises this year!

And there you have it…4 blog posts on Dreaming Big, Reflection, Bite-Size Chunks, and Accountability.  Now get out there and get ‘er done!  I believe in you!

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