Lauri Mackey

Are you stuck in traffic?

Are you stuck in traffic?

I’m writing today’s blog from the back seat of my awesome Xterra that’s wrapped in Lauri’s Lemonade Stand advertising and on our way to the Sea Otter Bicycle Classic in Monterey, CA.  (If you read last week’s blog you can see how much I LOVE CYCLING!)  My hubby is driving and our friend Mitch is tagging along from our infamous Brew Crew that rides mountain bikes every Thursday afternoon and we are stuck in Santa Barbara traffic – it’s something we’ve learned to just count on and figure into our driving time with every trip through this area.

And there’s the hook for this week’s blog 🙂  Traffic in the form of delays, setbacks, brake lights as far as the eye can see, even some serious accidents.  Accidents that can cause bumps, bruises, or even death.  You can relate to that, right?

Sometimes there are short delays and we just get off course a bit.  We went a little off our budget and need to re-adjust the next month to make up for our over-spending.  We spoke harshly to a loved one and need to make amends.  Some delays are much longer – you’re delayed for an incredibly long time – I’ve even had moments where they’ve shut down the freeway and we’ve been sitting for hours!

Examples of Life Traffic Delays

In life, the delay can be months or even years.  In my life, a great example is me not graduating high school as a teenager and then graduating as an adult in 2012!  (Hey, don’t judge…when I got my diploma I felt like Super Woman and it has propelled me into awesome, amazing things these last 5 years!)

Graduating high school was not only a delay, but felt like I was looking at miles of brake lights and that it would never end.  I never felt like I missed out of anything by missing prom and only slightly sad that I didn’t become a huge basketball star, but not getting my diploma really stuck with me throughout my life.  But when it was finally a time where it could be corrected, a time where I could focus on it, when it became a priority…I did it!

Delays are Inevitable

One of the things I’ve learned throughout my life is that delays are inevitable, period.  Small ones, medium ones, big ones and everything in between.  You know what else I’ve learned?  There is ALWAYS an end to the delay (setback).  Even when it is something as drastic as a death in the family…time heals and we live on.

If I asked you right now what your current delay was, what would you say?  This is usually a no-brainer – you think of it immediately as soon as I pose the question.  Is it a small delay?  Is it one with brake lights as far as the eye can see?  How do you feel when I ask the question of what your delay is?  Is it something like how you feel in actual traffic?  Anxiety, frustration, stress, maybe a few added curse words to boot?  Or if it’s the long delay with miles of brake lights – it may just be a feeling of depression and sadness that you just can’t shake as you’ve accepted the fact that you’re going to be stuck for awhile.  Either way, there is hope and it will end.

Don’t Give Up

Gordon B Hinckley has a saying that says, “Don’t worry, it will work out.  Things will work out.”  I know that it is hardest to see the end of a delay when you’re in the middle of it.  But I want to re-iterate the resounding word of  Gordon and say that it WILL WORK OUT.  Our delays can be used as learning tools if you let them.  The old cliche’ says there is always a silver lining and I believe that’s true.  Whenever I have come through a struggle or delay, my 20/20 hindsight vision ALWAYS sees that it made me a better person when it was over.

Where Are You Now?

You are in one of three places right now.  1 – You are in the middle of a delay right now.  If this is you, what is your attitude?  Can you find something positive about your situation?  Is there something you can be grateful for right now?  2 – You can see the end, but you’re not there yet.  Hang in there!  You’re almost there!  Start really thinking about the lessons you’ve learned and how you will come into your next delay – can you change something now that will help you better handle your delay next time?  DELAYS ARE INEVITABLE…but how we handle those delays are a testament of what we were and are willing to learn from them.  3 – You’ve made it through the delay – you’re done!  You’re out!  Gear up – because your next delay is coming.  Celebrate your wins, reflect on your lessons learned and take a moment – maybe even in meditation – to contemplate how you’ve grown and what you can do better next time.

You Are Loved

Wherever you are in your journey, please know that you are loved – right here, right now – just how you are.  Please also consider that you never know what other people are going through.  Be kind in your gestures and words to others.  You might make a difference in someone else’s life just because you chose to smile instead of grit your teeth.  Here at Lauri’s Lemonade Stand, you are in a safe place to be loved, feel love, and share love.  If you need love, please reach out.  If you are full of love right now, share it with others.  If you are part of this community – you are already receiving and sharing love.  Spread it, take it…whatever you need.  We are here for you!

The Boring Bliss of Routine

“Life is busy.”  It’s the unmistakably counted on answer when you ask someone the dreaded socially correct question now known as a greeting in our fair culture of “How are you?”.  Is  your response different?  A “fine, how are you?” perhaps?  I’m just as guilty as the next person and it has become habit to say either “fine, how are you?” or if I know them a bit better, “I’m busy”.  And if I hesitate (usually trying to think of how I really am so I can answer honestly) the person asking the question immediately thinks that something must be wrong in my life and jumps to conclusions that who knows what that has formed in their minds from sour milk to my dog dying.

Now that I’ve formed this little rant on the “how are you” question…I HAVE BEEN BUSY! Haha!  I can honestly answer that my life has been busy.  You have to understand that I am crazy OCD and an organizational freakazoid who has dialed in my “to-do list” and my “must-do” list so I’m practically scheduled out every day of the week.  Throw in a trip to Oakland for a family affair, my women’s conference where I was in charge of the almost 50 women volunteers, a couple of relatives popping in to say hello for a few days, and a planned trip coming up for four days the end of this week, and I pretty much throw my perfectly laid out plan out the window.  Well, not all of it…but it does get a bit more stressful and trying to shove 6 days of work into 3 days of time available.

After some recuperating and catching up I realized that sometimes I consider my life boring.  Not bad boring, but routine boring.  The same old things week after week.  The same chores, the same workouts, the same type of work.  Wearing my retainers every night, praying, meditating, daily reading, meals…all of it!  And then I remember my younger adult self.  Scattered, not settled into a career or a happy marriage.  When the dust settled on the last two weeks and as I look forward to this coming weekend trip, I realize that I LOVE the BORING BLISS OF MY ROUTINE.

I love that I’m the first one up every morning because my hubby and puppies are not morning beings.  I love going downstairs and getting a glass of water first thing and putting away the dishes from the night before and laying out my breakfast utensils.  I love writing my morning pages, saying my morning prayers, and doing my daily reading and journaling all before the rest of my household awakes.  I absolutely LOVE everything about Lauri’s Lemonade Stand…from the podcast, to the weekly blog, to Ms Penelope Pickwick’s Bookworm Report every Tuesday (See the latest one HERE).  I love the routine of cooking dinner or just going out if it’s been a long day and that I watch documentaries on Monday nights with my hubby (If you haven’t seen the movie Embrace…I highly recommend it!).

In today’s blog I just want to publicly acknowledge the boring bliss of my routine.  I absolutely love it.  I love the busy moments and the quiet moments.  I love the growth moments and the bliss moments that happen after the growth moments and I realize that I’ve learned something new.  I love the boring bliss of my routine!  The next time someone asks “how are you?” what will you say?

Holiatry (hoh lee a tree)

Holiatry (hoh lee a tree) or holism or wholism is engenders the case of the ENTIRE patient from all aspects including social, psychological, and physical.  Basically, our insides, our outsides, and then how our little person that we created (us) shows up in the world.  Let’s start by defining each of these three subjects, shall we?

Let’s start with physical because that is the easiest to define.  It has everything to do with nourishment and movement.  Basically, diet and exercise…but that sounds boring, right?  I like nourishment and movement much better.  Nourishment is anything you stick in your mouth, breathe in, or otherwise put on your skin.  I believe that a whole food, plant-based diet is the best not only for our physical well-being and it makes me feel like a super-hero, but it also makes me a hero in saving animals and saving the planet.  In other words, I’m out to save the world!  Choosing to eat a whole foods, plant-based diet truly makes me feel like a superhero!  Movement is defined differently for all of us.  Mine is a bit on the aggressive side, but not as aggressive as kickboxers and the martial arts!  Who knows?  Maybe someday…but in the meantime I am a mountain bike enthusiast, a dabbler in running and spend a couple of short bursts in the gym and doing yoga.  What do you do?  It’s different for everyone and THERE IS NO WRONG WAY!  Are you a walker, hiker, swimmer, surfer, cyclist, skier?  I don’t care what it is…dance!  But do something in the movement department!

Next comes psychological which to me sounds much more pleasant when you think of it as your mind and spirit.  Your mind because of knowledge…any kind of knowledge.  Formal education, life experiences, you name it.  Everything having to do with learning and as you saw from my last post, I am a student 4 life!  I don’t want to ever stop learning and becoming.  The other is our precious spirits.  You have a spiritual side of you whether you are in organized religion or not.  Who or what is your higher power?  I believe in God and those who know me or have been on my podcast know that, but I know we are not all in that cookie-cutter life.  Whatever your religious practice…embrace it!  Live it! Love it!  Spirit also includes things like meditation, self-care, your soul, spending time with yourself to learn of your greatest desires.  Sometimes your spiritual self just wants to let go and have some fun!  Let yourself have recess!

That brings us to our third and last part of our whole – Social.  Once you have yourself on a pretty even keel of physical and psychological, it’s time to share your love, knowledge, and service with the world!  It’s time to show up in your companionships and relationships outside of yourself.  A little bit of you given away creates lasting impressions and forges friendships that can change you for the better (or sometimes for the worst)…either way, they are learning experiences to teach you more about yourself and how to be a healthy contributor to your relationships.  How do you show up in the world?

At Lauri’s Lemonade Stand, we are embarking on a journey to explore these three aspects of holiatry and how I can help you in the discovery of self and charging up to that next chapter of our lives with conviction and truth, confidence and love, and kick some serious ass!  Bring it on!  We’ll be ready!

Student 4 Life

Are we there yet?  One of the things I talk about is not believing in Happy Endings.  I don’t believe in happy endings.  While you may be aghast at the thought…let me shed some light on my thinking.

First, fairytale happy endings are not happy endings at all.  All fairytale happy endings just stop when the going got good or hit a high point.  It’s a happy moment, but not a happy ending.  Life goes on and it will not always be a picturesque scene with the perfectly cued music in the background.  Cinderella had to learn how to live with Prince Charming and manage a castle.

Second, I believe that our spirit goes on forever…therefore there is no ending.  I am an eternal being that will never reach the end so therefore I’m not waiting for my happy ending…I better figure it out right now.  If I can’t be happy right now then what’s the point?  This fosters the belief that it’s ok to be happy today and not save it for a tomorrow that might not ever come.

Third and last, I always want to be becoming or arriving.  I don’t want to become or arrive because that denotes an ending.  I don’t want to ask the question, “are we there yet?” because I want to enjoy the journey not just the destination.  Tim Ferris talks about mini-retirements in his book, The 4-Hour WorkWeek because he doesn’t want to arrive at retirement.  He wants to enjoy life in the here and now.  I like that idea.

If yesterday is gone and can only be used as a learning tool and you can’t touch a tomorrow, what does that leave us?  TODAY!!  If you aren’t happy today, then what’s the point?  There is something to be grateful for and happy about every single day, period. Even when going through hard times, there is ALWAYS something to be grateful for and happy about.

Because of all of this I would like to dub myself a Student 4 Life.  I always want to be striving for and learning new things.  I want to be in a constant state of becoming.  At this point in my life I believe I’ve shed the caterpillar part of me and become a butterfly, but my journey doesn’t stop there.  I want to add more color to my wings.

Goal Posts 4 of 4 for 2017

 

Accountability

Hello, Lemonader’s!  

This is the last post of my Goal Post Series for January.  I’ve liked having a theme forthe month.  Do you?  If so, let me know in the comments so I can plan more themed parties for us!

The last piece of the puzzle is Accountability.  This is a new one for me this year, but I have so many goals that I wanted to report to someone so my goals wouldn’t get lost in the melee of my big, beautiful life.  At the end of my list of Promises for 2017 I added one more new category:  Giddy-Up Goal Celebrations.

I wanted to be able to celebrate all of my small wins and be encouraged in my journey.  I ended up with 4 accountabilities (of course, you can have as many or as little as you like!).  I have a Podcast Accountability group with two other awesome women that keep me on track with my podcasting goals.  We meet via Skype every Tuesday.  I have a Book-Writing Accountability team member who we simply email each other every Wednesday on our progress and encourage each other.  I have a Speech accountability that I do every Thursday with guess who?  Myself!  I was challenged by one of my podcast guests, Whitney Johnson to do 10 FREE Speeches during 2017 and I am sending pitches out to whomever will listen to get my message out there.  And last, but definitely not least, I “hired” my best friend, Lizzie to check in with me monthly and then quarterly on my entire goal list.

And guess what?  She is making me a gold star chart!  How cool is that?  She is most definitely a mom and wanted to make some sort of chart to show my progress and we giggled about gold stars, but then thought…why the heck not?  It will be fun and you can bet I’ll be fighting for each of those earned gold stars!!

Goals are great.  Goals written down are in a much higher percentile to actually happen and get accomplished.  Goals that you have to report back to someone??  Over 90%, baby!  I’m adding this element to rock my Promises for 2017!

And there you have it…4 blog posts on Dreaming Big, Reflection, Bite-Size Chunks, and Accountability.  Now get out there and get ‘er done!  I believe in you!

Goal Posts 3 of 4 for 2017

  • Bite Size Chunks
    • Now that you’ve Dreamed Big and had some time to Reflect, it’s time to set your actual goals for 2017.  This year I decided I wanted to make my goals more fun instead of stodgy.  I changed my goal title from Lauri’s Goals 2017 to Lauri’s Promises 2017.  I changed the Relationships category to Family Focus, Physical to Physical Well-being and Playtime, Financial to Abundant Wealth Prowess, Education to Cultivating Enlightenment, Spiritual to Soul Solutions.  I even added two new categories this year:  Creativity and my favorite?  Recess!
    • Not only am a adding in more fun this year, but I have two pages of promises and this might help you, too.  One set is a Promises Summary where it states my goals.  The second set (and this is where the bite-size chunks come in) breaks down those promises into actual action steps.  How will I accomplish my goals?  Let me share one with you so you get the idea.
    • Under my Recess Category I have a goal for a Weekly Date with guess who?  Me!  One my first set of Promises where it is a summary, it simply says, Weekly Dates with Myself.  On the second set I have it broken out to say that not only will I have a weekly date with myself, but I will alternate each week from an evening to a daytime date.  I have ideas written of a few dates I’ve done in the past and enjoyed and some I think might be fun.  Not all of my dates have been a hit, by the way.  Some felt as a downright waste of my time by the end, but consistency keeps me moving forward in the right direction so that I keep taking time for myself.  Last week I simply set a date to pull out all of my stamp collection, see how much they were worth right now and make a list of a couple of collections I’d like to complete and added it to my wishlist for friends and family for my birthday and Christmas (yes, I’m the OCD one when it comes to list and preparation…I always have a wishlist going! You should to!)
    • That means that now is time for the action step for you.  You’ve Dreamt Big, you’ve Reflected on past years goals that have and haven’t worked for you and where you are now.  You are ready to make your Promises, but more importantly, ready to break them down into “Bite-Size Chunks” so that you can actually see yourself accomplishing your goals.
    • Next week?  The last piece of the puzzle to help you accomplish your goals or promises in 2017 – Accountability.  I’ll tell you that I’ve never taken this step before until this year and what I’ve done to make it happen for me.
    • Please leave a comment below and share one of your promises for 2017.  I love hearing from you!

Goal Posts 2 of 4 for 2017

  • Reflections
    • One of the funnest things I did before actually writing my goals down for 2017 was reflect on my past years of goal-setting.  I have been printing out and posting on my bulletin board my yearly goals since 2010.  I kept them in a tidy little file folder tucked away in one of my office drawers and hadn’t thought much about them other than to put the old ones in at the end of each year.  Not this time.
    • It was so great to reflect on some of my goals and what I was into at that particular time.  How my physical goals have changed from running a half marathon and now I’m racing mountain bikes.  Saving for Boobs had been on my list, but 2 years later decided they would be a “BIG” pain and get in the way of my physical fitness goals.  How many classes I wanted to finish to gain my high school diploma and how that goal came true in it’s entirety in 2012 when I graduated!
    • From knitting a blanket (yes, it’s still on there after three years) to completing a Shutterfly book.  From spiritual goals that were met to eating right.  It has been wonderful to reflect and introspect and ruminate over goals accomplished, goals that turned out not as important as I had thought in the moment and just how I’ve grown over the last 6 years navigating my 40’s.  A crazy, mixed-up, wonderful, growth of a ride for sure.
    • What are some goals that were important to you at the time, but turned out less important as years passed?
    • What did you spend time on and wished you hadn’t?  Now vice versa…wish you had spent more time on, but didn’t?
    • Accomplished any bucket list items lately?  Can you add one this year?
    • Are your goals attainable in this year?
    • Now that you’ve Dreamed Big, and done a little Reflection, tune in next week to figure out how you can attain those goals by putting them into Bite-Size Chunks.
    • Don’t forget to leave a comment and let me know all about your goals and how your reflection of past goals have been for you.  Love hearing from you!

Goal Posts 1 of 4 for 2017

  • Dream Big
    • This month’s Wednesday Blogs will be focused on setting goals or what I have termed “Promises”.  This year I decided to shake things up a bit and use different description words and generally make my goals a lot more FUN!  I wanted to use my creativity and playfulness – we can sometimes be so stodgy, strict, and stick-in-the-muddy when it comes to making our serious goals.  Why?
    • I decided that while I am serious about reaching my goals there wasn’t a reason on earth not to make them fun, playful, creative and attractive.  The Four Blogs will be entitled Dream Big, Reflections, Bite Size Chunks, and Accountability.
    • For today, let’s focus on DREAMING BIG.  How would you complete the following sentences?
    • If money were not an option, I would___________________________________.
    • If I could set my fear aside, I would____________________________________.
    • My dream job would be_____________________________________________.
    • If I had extra money to donate to any philanthropic organization I would pick____________________________________________________________.
    • 3 Things I would add to my bucket list__________________________________.
    • 3 Movies I’ve always wanted to see but haven’t taken the time are____________.
    • If I had an entire day to myself I would spend it doing______________________.
    • If I had more time to workout I would do________________________________.
    • My Secret Destination Dream vacation would be__________________________.
    • Something purely fun I want to learn___________________________________.
    • I want to retire at age_______________________________________________.
    • If I wrote a book it would be titled______________________________________.
    • 2 Projects I’ve put off for entirely too long_______________________________.
    • 1 House Project that I would love to finish this year_________________________.
    • You get the idea here, right?  Allow yourself to dream big.  The goal of this exercise isn’t to necessarily see them ALL happen in 2017, but to realize or work on them this year.  Is Paris your dream vacation?  Start a savings account specifically for that purpose, play a French film with subtitles while eating a crescent to keep your dream alive.  Have a nagging house project?  Write down what it would take to accomplish that goal.  For example, last year I wanted to get new carpet upstairs so long before that became a reality I started saving for the carpet, picked out the carpet and pad as well as got quotes for installation.  Want to donate to a philanthropic organization but don’t have the money you would really like to donate?  So what!  They appreciate all donations.  I donate $10/month to PCRM and this year my husband picked 4 different charities he wanted to support at $5/month each.  Do something…not nothing.
    • And just as a side note…I do have on my promises list for something purely fun.  My hubby and I are going to learn to pop wheelies on our mountain bikes!  Yes!
    • After filling out your DREAMING BIG categories, it’s time to make them fun.  Please tune in next Wednesday for the Reflections topic where I look at my goals that I started printing out in 2010 and how this year I changed them from stodgy to playful.
    • If this was helpful, please leave a comment below as I would love to hear from you!

25 Kinds of Journals to Keep

25 Kinds of Journals to Keep
In a recent podcast interview with Laurie Blackwell (Episode 27), we talked the inside out and sideways of journal writing.  Upon finding out our mutual passion of the subject, Laurie created this amazing list that includes 25 different kinds of journals you could create. 
Laurie also teaches online journaling classes at www.laurieblackwell.com.  
Check out the podcast interview here.  Enjoy and get journaling!
25 Kinds of Journals to Keep
  1.   A Diary :: a fictional pen-pal to write to about all of your happenings and feelings
  2. A Historical Record of Days :: think Lewis and Clark, complete with weather reports and sketches of objects encountered
  3. An Art Journal :: filled with pages of color, collage, drawings
  4. A Travel Journal :: a reflection on and memories concerning a trip away from home
  5. A Pen-Pal Journal :: You complete a page, send it to a friend who makes a page and sends it back to you
  6. A Grief Journal :: a way to remember and honor someone you loved and now miss
  7. A Positivity Journal :: a book to keep all happy thoughts and good happenings in so you can remember how wonderful life really is
  8. A Wish Journal :: a place to keep all those things (thoughts, clippings, pictures) of the things your heart desires
  9. A Dream Journal :: record the subconscious happenings in your mind while you sleep (upon waking up, of course)
  10. A Family Journal :: a place where everyone in the household can express themselves whenever they like (such a keepsake!)
  11. A Letters Journal :: where you write all the letters you will never send but have to put out there
  12. A Book Journal :: a record of all the books you read – when, what, and your own personal review
  13. A Bullet Journal :: the ultimate “get it done” way to organize
  14. A Relationship Journal :: a place to store mementos, dates, and details about your life together
  15. Wonderful Words Journal  ::  put all the words that sound beautiful or mean something special to you in this book, including their definitions
  16. A Poetry Journal ::  write down all your favorite poems, the ones that really move you, all in one journal
  17. A Place to Vent Journal ::  All the stuff you’d like to get off your chest;  write it down here and when the journal is full, throw it away!  
  18. The Things I Never Want to Forget Journal  ::  memories throughout your life that you want to treasure forever
  19. A Journal of My Favorites  ::  a place to record all those things you love the most, like your favorite restaurant, movie, song, scent, season…
  20. A Journal of Recipes :: all the tried and true yummy food and the ones you’d like to make 
  21. A Patterns Journal  :: patterns you love – pieces cut from cloth, magazines, catalogs, and drawings of patterns that you’ve seen or from your imagination
  22. A Healthy Me Journal ::  what you eat each day, goals for being healthier, an exercise log, etc.
  23. A Journal for Doodles  ::  a place to draw to your heart’s content
  24. A Money Journal  ::  where you record all the money that comes into your life and how you spend it;  a pretty and concise way to watch your pennies
  25. A Reflections Journal  ::  an account of things you do and how they could be improved in the future;   this is a game-changer

Election Day 2016

Donald Trump is Our President


Let me start by saying that I did not vote for Trump or for Clinton.  That may cause some controversy, but just being honest.

Another confession is that I was really truly surprised that Trump won!  I had no idea that would happen and thought that Hilary had it in the bag even though I did not feel that in good conscience I could vote for her or Trump.

But now we’ve turned the corner.  The decision has been made.  I do not know what will happen in the next four years and honestly am afraid for our country and am hoping that I will be pleasantly surprised by Donald Trump and that he makes great strides and finds excellent results in his promises to this nation.

Having said that, I would like to speak to the fact that family members and friends have been pitted against each other before, during, and after the election.  The day before the election I read this passage by Howard W. Hunter and I share it with you so that it may touch your heart, but more importantly that we will start healing the wounds we may have created over this crazy roller-coaster of a ride election:

“The world in which we live would benefit greatly if men and women everywhere would exercise the pure love of Christ, which is kind, meek, and lowly.  It is without envy or pride.  It is selfless because it seeks nothing in return.  It does not countenance evil or ill will, nor rejoice in iniquity;  it has no place for bigotry, hatred, or violence.  It refuses to condone ridicule, vulgarity, abuse, or ostracism.  It encourages diverse people to live together in Christian love regardless of religious belief, race, nationality, financial standing, education, or culture.”

I cannot predict the future and I could not have predicted the outcome of this major election, but I have the 100% say-so in how I treat my family, my friends, my neighbors.  I have 100% control over how I decide to show up in this community that I call home and to the world.  And so do you.  Choose wisely…
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