Lauri Mackey

Afraid of Change?

Are you afraid of change?
Mindset Shifts

Are you afraid of change? I am learning to embrace it and wanted to share my thoughts with you.  I will admit that when I’ve made plans to do something and those plans got disrupted?  I fight change.  Which in hindsight is always silly because those plans being disrupted always brings about a better change then what I had planned anyway.  Even if I don’t see the immediate results in that moment.  Let me tell you a story.
Recently, our church went through a HUGE change.  Our city and the neighboring city comprised our geographical area which was broken into several smaller areas that met together on Sundays.  Due to new housing projects and just the changing of times it became necessary to change those geographical boundaries and let me tell you, there was serious resistance to these plans.  
Some families had been in the same area for 20-30 years and did not like the idea of being moved around.  Me?  When I first heard there was going to be a change my heart leapt in excitement!  I immediately felt like it was the right thing to do and couldn’t wait to hear the changes.  Now here we are 6 months later and some people are still griping, moaning, and complaining about being “plucked from there area and dropped into another one”.  Keep in mind, NOBODY MOVED.  Everyone is still living in their same house.  It’s not like they lost a neighbor and would never see them again.  They just met with new people on Sundays.  
But sometimes change is hard and we don’t want to accept it, right?  
These past few weeks I have attended conferences and trainings and read books that have shifted my mindset about several things that I wanted to share with you today.
The first is the mindset of abundance in my life.  This inspiration came from Lisa Nichols who is the owner of Motivating the Masses and author of Abundance Now.  This gal is from South Central LA, was pregnant and then her baby’s father went to jail for a life term.  She had every reason to not feel abundance.  We would not blame her for wanting to just sit and wallow in it.  It would be her just due.
But she didn’t sit and wallow in it.  She got food stamps once and was so humiliated and embarrassed by it she determined that would never happen to her again.  She did not want to feel that way again.  It took time, but she made a mindset shift that changed her life and the life of not only her son, but her entire family.  
Here’s the kicker with Lisa…she started thinking abundantly when her and her son were in a tiny apartment eating beans and franks and they played as if they were the best chefs in the world.  You absolutely must THINK it before it becomes a reality.  That reality?  Lisa now owns a publicly traded company and her son is a French Chef.  Mindset Matters!
The other mindset shift is service.  WE DO NOT have to render service on a grand scale to make it count.  You do not have to be equivalent to Mother Teresa to make it count.  It doesn’t have to be covered on the local or national news to make it count, but service is a mindset shift that absolutely needs to happen.  Service keeps us humble and connected, period.
Please, please, please try service out in your own backyard.  I’m not even talking about your neighbor’s backyard although that would be the next obvious step.  I’m talking about right inside the walls of your own home.  How can you be of service to your spouse?  Your children?  Your parents?
Lately I have felt that I needed to serve my husband more.  He is crazy awesome and supports me through ANY endeavor I am currently pursuing.  He not only encourages me, but actively listens and is supporting in all that I do.  I could never repay his kindness, but I wanted him to feel just as supported as he made me feel.
Eddy is the dishwasher in our family so I’ve made it a point to help with the dishes more over the last few weeks.  I’ve tried to walk the dogs a few times per week as that is his other chore.  I even went as far as bringing him breakfast in bed last weekend and lunch to him when he was up relaxing that same afternoon.  It yields great results!  Just his smile warms my heart and makes me happy!
Let’s go back to the boundary changes at church.  How could that have been made easier for all involved?  MINDSET SHIFTS!  Instead of saying, poor me and what will I lose by this we need to say, WOW!  This is so exciting!  I’m not moving anywhere so I still get to keep my same friends and neighbors and then have the opportunity to meet people I’ve never met before.  I will be able to not only learn and grow myself, but be able to support others on this new journey.  What a wonderful thing to happen in my lifetime!
What if we feel we are lacking in abundance?  MINDSET SHIFT!  Gratitude is your first line of defense.  Start be feeling grateful for what you have.  Have a roof over your head?  You are in abundance!  Have food and clothing?  You are in abundance!  Start with what you have first and then create the mindset that you can be in greater abundance to achieve greater abundance.  You have to THINK it before it becomes a reality.


Feel guilty about not doing a grand gesture of service?  MINDSET SHIFT!  Start in your own backyard.  There is always, always, always service to be rendered in some small way.  Smile.  Hold your tongue when you want to say something critical. Make your teenager’s bed one day this week.  Bake cookies just for the heck of it.  Take your family on a bike ride or make s’mores in your fireplace!  The sky’s the limit, folks!

Whatever you decide to change in your mindset this week, I hope you try it out and come back and share your results here.  My goal is help you in your journey.  To make plans for your next chapter and then rock those plans like crazy!  Wishing you hope and empowerment…

Episode 000-The Podcast

Lauri’s Lemonade Stand
A Positivity Podcast for Women


Hello, Lemonaders!  My name is Lauri Mackey and I created Lauri’s Lemonade Stand to help women over 40 either enhance who we already are or if needed, to start from scratch to re-create ourselves and figure out who we want to be when we grow up.  To do this, we need inspiration from others who have gone before us or who are living that reality right now.  Most of the positivity podcast is interview-based so that we can hear others stories of hope and empowerment.  To hear from others who have hit rock bottom and found the only way to go was or is up.  As Stephanie McKenzie stated in her podcast episode 017, we are here to help those who haven’t reached where we are yet and also look forward to those who have already been where we are now.  Here is a good example of what I’m talking about:
During my very first interview, 001 Rebecca Rusch, who is a multi-world champion mountain biker, author, speaker and all around bad-ass that I admire discussed how more women were getting into mountain-biking, but that the the sport is mostly male-dominated.  Basically, we ride with guys more than we do gals.  We talked about how we can watch a guy take some technical section, make it look easy, but that we still may be reluctant or hesitant to try it ourselves.  Then we get our gal friend, like Lindsey Voreis on episode 003 who is also an awesome mountain biker and teaches other women confidence throught this amazing sport take the same technical section and it gives us the courage and strength to try it ourselves.  In other words, as women, we need each other!
We need each other to create courage, give each other strength, build each other up and create contagious energy to do and be better.  To take our “sucking lemons” moments and turn them into sweet lemonade.
Some of the other podcasts, while still interview-based are just fun, like episode 012 where Irene Thomas teaches us how to Geocache or Jo Ellen Soesbee who is the Tool Box Tom Girl in episode 004 who will inspire you to pick up those tools and do it yourself before ever making a phone call to the handyman.
Another fun part of every episode are the Lemonade Moments I ask at the end of every interview to my guests.  Because I am constantly putting them on the hot seat, I thought I should also have to answer these questions myself so here goes:
Question #1 – Name one activity you do every day without fail?  Well, the obvious answer was brush and floss my teeth, but my official answer is reading my scriptures, writing in my journal and saying a prayer to do good that day.  Question #2 – Favorite Guilty Pleasure Food?  French Fries from Veggie Grill!!  Not the kind you get at fast food joints, the thick, covered in fun seasoning kind of fries.  I would say the runner up to that would be the banana chocolate peanut butter vegan soft-serve my dear hubby makes for me when I have a sweet tooth.  Did I mention I was vegan?  Question #3 – Biggest Pet Peeve?  The buttons at crosswalks!!  Seriously, do you ever see those people standing there hitting that button a thousand times until they get the light?  It doesn’t matter if you push it once or a hundred times…the light is going to change at the same time.  Somewhere along the line someone told someone else that the more times you push it the more people it thinks is standing there so it will change faster.  Big lie!  It doesn’t think at all, hello!  It will change just as fast for the one as for the dozen.  Yep…feel a little passionate about that one!  Haha!  Question #4 – Favorite Quote I’m loving right now.  Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly until you learn to do it well by Zig Ziglar.  Hence this podcast!  Or writing a blog, or learning a new skill on a bike.  You have to start somewhere…the most important thing to do is to start!
Question #5 and the last one – What’s the biggest thing I’ve accomplished since turning 40.  Graduating high school for sure!  It was seriously one of the hardest things I did as an adult!  You can check out episode 013 to get the full scoop but let me just say that it’s way harder as an adult to graduate than as a teenager.  Tell your teenagers to stay in school!!
What are some of the other things I’ve accomplished since turning 40?  After graduating high school, becoming a certified Starchivore, earning a certificate in plant-based nutrition through eCornell University, becoming a Certified health coach through The Institute of Integrative Nutrition, establishing Lauri’s Lemonade Stand Blog/Podcast/Website/Facebook page, becoming an Inspirational Speaker with training from YSU and Lisa Nichols Motivating the Masses, earning my Young Women’s medallion through the Personal Progress program, racing mountain bikes and becoming a mountain bike coach to our local high school team. Seriously, ladies…if I can do it…anyone can!
What are my next goals?  To write a book!  I have been taking all sorts of courses and researching what it takes to write a book.  How to publish traditionally or self-publish, what to write about that will make the most difference in helping other women accomplish their goals.  Just to hold myself accountable, I’m setting a date to release a book by Christmas 2017.  That gives me just over a year to get it written and sorted out.  A noble goal and I can’t wait to share it with all of you!
Ladies, this positivity podcast for women was created out of love to offer support in your journey.  Wherever you are, you are right where you are supposed to be.  I’m betting that if you have 45 minutes per week to listen while you’re driving, working out, or just hanging at home you will feel the love and inspiration of these wonderful women.  That you won’t feel so alone in your journey.  That you will feel empowered to do and be whatever your little heart desires.
If you need daily doses of positivity – checkout my Facebook Page called Lauri’s Lemonade Stand.  
For weekly doses of positivity – you can check out my blog at laurislemonadestand.blogspot.com.  
And for the best lemonade recipe ever, check out my website at laurislemonadestand.com.  If you subscribe to my email list and I sure hope you do, you will also get “Eddy’s 60 Days of Sunshine” pdf for FREE to help create positive, lemonade moments in the life of someone you love who may be feeling down.

Looking forward to sharing this podcast journey with you and wishing you all the best in whatever you are pursuing right now.  I would love to hear from you so please, pretty please chime in in the rate and review of this podcast and subscribe because iTunes will make sure it gets out there to more women of our tribe and don’t forget to hit “like” on Facebook!  Love to you all, My Lemonaders in Training!  Enjoy the show and thank you for listening!

The Mom Gear

The Mom Gear
Grand Baby Visit October 2016
“Can you watch the kids for a few days?”, my eldest daughter asks.  We have a wedding to go to and then I can get ready for Riley’s 4th birthday party.  I will bring them out to you (about a 3-hour drive) and then you can bring them back for the birthday party.  “Of course!”, I say, “That will be fun!”
Never mind that they had never stayed the night at my house without mommy before and that my youngest left at home is a Junior in high school.  Never mind that I’ve gotten used to actually sleeping through the night and have been spoiled about having most of my time as my own.  Never mind that I rarely change poopy diapers or have to keep “mimi’s”, “b-b’s”,  and “mina’s” definitions straight.

Now, don’t get me wrong…I absolutely adore my grand babies.  They are super cute, loaded with energy and say the funniest things I’ve ever heard.  They are fascinated by the littlest things, call big rocks volcanoes, know how to make my youngest dog do tricks on the walking bridge by our house, and save roly-poly’s by picking them up and putting them on trees.

They finish a huge breakfast eating waffles, bananas, strawberries, and some dry cold cereal to boot and walk away only to be back 15-20 minutes later telling me they are hungry. They dump the entire toy basket out and put it all back at least 5 times a day and that doesn’t count the other two where I put them away for them.

After two days I remembered what it was like to have the extra “mom gear”.  The Mom Gear is only available to moms of young children when they need it.  It’s like a super power that can only be called on when it’s needed.  It’s something akin to the mom’s having an extra pair of eyes in the back of their head.  It keeps you moving when you’ve been up several times a night to a child needing their “mina-mina” (which is a drink to my 2-year old grandson), their “b-b” which is his pacifier, or his “mimi” which is his blanket that he can’t sleep without.

It’s the extra gear you find when you’ve already run 4 loads of laundry that day, but then you forgot to put the 4-year old in a diaper for her nap and she peed during her sleep so you have to do one more load and then scrub the bed.  It’s the extra gear that gives you patience when something you have owned for a very long time gets broken from curious little hands and makes you realize that the kids are far more important than whatever it was that broke.

I was ever so grateful that as a Gram who had not been in this situation for quite a long time that I still had my “Mom Gear” well intact somewhere in the depths my being.  Today, I am grateful to be in the stage of life that I’m in, but I am even more grateful to all of you mom’s like my oldest daughter who possess the “Mom Gear”.  

You are incredible.  You are making a difference in this world with every smile, every load of laundry, ever meal prepared, every errand run, every time you’ve had to call on the strength of God for more patience.

You young moms rock!  This is a shout-out to all of you, but a special shout out to my eldest daughter, Erica.  You are a beautiful, caring, loving mother.  I am so proud of how you are raising these beautiful grand babies of mine.  You matter.  You rock.  I love you, period.

5 Teenage Girls = 0 Chocolate Chip Cookies

5 Teenage Girls = 
0 Chocolate Chip Cookies
My Team

     My husband and I help coach the local high school mountain bike team.  We started three seasons ago as just general volunteers, then assistant coaches, then this season as team head coaches.  The team has over 80 kids, 6 head coaches, assistant coaches, ride leaders, general volunteers and parents galore.

     Our season runs December 1st through the end of May – a full six months of practices 4 days a week.  State Championships will be next week as we round out this season.
  
     Our part of the team (approximately 1/5th of the 80 kids) were mostly middle schoolers and a handful of high schoolers.  Our middle schoolers finished their season last weekend which left us with just our high schoolers which happen to all be girls.

     This season has seen crashes, stitches, endo’s, and wins on the podium, but my favorite part was getting to know each member of our team and watching them grow not only in their skill on the mountain bike, but their sheer determination to push on.

     You can imagine with trails having names such as the Black Beast and Hell Hill for example that you learn to toughen up, but you learn to smile on ones like Backbone, Two Foxes, and Si Nombre…if you’re lucky even the Super Secret Trail.

     The first 6 weeks or so of practice we were able to keep ahead of those kids, but they then pushed us the rest of the season.  Today I just wanted to say thank you to our part of the team.  Thank you for the laughs, the tears, the learning curves, the pushes, the games, and for just showing up practice after practice, race after race.

     Today was my last hard ride with my girls.  We did hill repeats on Rabbit Hill.  By the 5th time up my legs were starting to burn, but I got zero complaints from those girls.  Next week is the State Champs and this season will come to an end, but the memories will live on.  After practice today I gave them a treat of Costco chocolate chip cookies and you know what?  5 Teenage Girls = 0 Chocolate Chip Cookies.

Practice Smiling

Practice Smiling
     When I was interviewing Jo Ellen Soesbee last week for my podcast, she said something towards the end that I couldn’t stop thinking about.  She was driving along and happened to notice that she could see the driver in front of her in his side-view mirror and she thought, “Does that mean that others can see me in my side-view mirror?”  

     Apparently, the gentleman in front of her did not look very happy.  In fact, he looked downright grumpy by all accounts.  That’s when Jo Ellen decided to practice smiling.  She didn’t want people to think that she was grumpy!

     This practice served her well when a client called and said, “I hired you because when I saw you in your truck, you were smiling.”  Wow!  Landing a job because you smiled while you were driving!
Jo Ellen has practiced smiling so much that on a recent girl’s weekend her friends accused her of even smiling in her sleep!  Now that’s some serious smile practicing if you ask me.  🙂

     I decided I would try it out and over this last week I’ve simply tried to smile while I was driving.  Honestly, I felt pretty silly at first and if I knew someone was close enough to see me I acted as if I was listening to some funny comedian on the radio and laughed out loud!  

     While I am not perfect at this smiling while I’m driving thing, it has changed my attitude while I drive to be a little more polite and a little more understanding of others while they drive.  

Smiling matters!!

     I will keep practicing, Jo Ellen!  To hear more on Jo Ellen Soesbee come on over to the podcast, Lauri’s Lemonade Stand on iTunes by following this link:  Lauri’s Lemonade Stand Positivity Podcast  I bet you won’t be disappointed!

The “To Don’t Do” List

Doing vs. Being

  • Inspired by this beautiful video from the UK, #letgo, I contemplated the wisdom of a “To Don’t Do List”.  
  • A couple of years ago I had the opportunity to race mountain bikes.  I’m over 40 and I ran in the beginner class, but I felt on top of the world (not to mention the podium) while I did it.  It was an 8-race series that ran in the summer where most racers wore a bandana over their mouths to keep out the dust while racing in 100-degree plus heat.
  • Nothing feels quite like racing.  It is tough, exhilarating, and I don’t ever see my heart rate that high.  And then last summer, the race series was cancelled.  I was so sad as I thought I would try the next level up to see how I could do.  Bummer!
  • Then three days ago I got the email.  My race series was back!  It starts next month on May 19th.  I was super excited until I started to contemplate where my life was right now.  The family business was in trouble and has barely come back to life and it’s needed my help.  Lauri’s Lemonade Stand is finally moving forward and the interviews are happening to launch my podcast (which has me flying on top of the world!).
  • This morning, I was thinking about it so much that I talked with my hubby as he’s the wise one in this family…grounded and more calm than my thinking.  He supported me in my endeavor to pursue this race…he’s awesome!
  • Then I watched the video.  I thought about “Doing vs Being”.  I thought about how good I am at making to-do lists, but have never ever created a to-don’t-do list.
  • I looked at my to-do list carefully and thoughtfully.  I then created my to-don’t-do list and here is what it looks like:
    • Don’t make plans during weekday evenings outside of my family if at all possible.
    • Don’t over-commit my time so much that I don’t have time for me or my family.
    • Don’t focus on things that don’t matter in the big picture of my life.
    • Don’t let negativity or negative people take up too much of my headspace.
    • Don’t worry so much.
  • Then I asked my 16-yr old daughter and here is what she said:
    • Don’t eat as much junk food, criticize others, or bite her nails.
  • Then I asked my husband and here is what he said:
    • Don’t sweat the small stuff (and it’s mostly all small stuff).
    • Don’t worry.
    • Don’t be afraid to try new things.
    • Don’t judge myself so harshly.
    • Don’t compare myself to others.
  • Then I went to family dinner and here is what a few of them said:
    • Don’t procrastinate.
    • Don’t make excuses.  They are like ****holes, everyone has one and they stink!
    • And my personal favorite from my PT Assistant niece:  Don’t get poop on your lab coat while working ever again!
  • In the end, I decided that I would not race, but only for this year.  Our businesses are in critical condition and the timing is off.  So it may be on my To-Don’t-Do list right now, but I plan on it being a break and coming back next year to race my little heart out as it will end up on my “To-Do” list once more.  It felt good to give myself permission to say NO.

What can you put on your “To-Don’t-Do” List?  I would love to hear from you!

Embrace

Embracing You
I’m a ball-baby, a boob, a serious cryer.  I cry when I’m happy and full of love.  I cry when I watch movies.  I cry when little things have added up over time and it brings a sweet release that only crying can achieve.  I cry when I’m sad and I cry when I’m mad.  I am a cryer.
I know I’ve written about my sweet husband a bunch, but he made me see my crying in a different way.
Several years ago (more than I want to count, actually) I was crying over something or other and throughout my whole life I had fought being a cryer.  In the midst of my frustration and more crying I told my hubby, “I’m sorry, I’m going to learn how to control this, I will figure this out and I won’t be such a boob”.  What he said changed not only my view about my crying, but in every other aspect of my life.
He said, “Sweetheart, I’ve known you for a long time and this is a part of you that I don’t think is going to change.  I think that you are a cryer and that that’s ok.”  WHAT???  It’s ok that I cry?
I had always seen my crying as a negative that I needed to change to a positive.  The thought had never crossed my mind that it was just simply a part of who I was and that it was perfectly fine to embrace that as a part of me and MOVE ON.
Since that time I have never worried about my crying.  It has even made me view other people’s crying in a whole new light.  My daughter was having a particularly hard day yesterday and she stopped by my work for a “cry session”.  She apologized for half a second and I just told her to let it all out.  She did.  She knew I was a cryer and she knew that I would understand.
Being a cryer and embracing that part of me has made me empathetic to others and has made me see other parts of my life that I viewed as negative as just a part of who I am today.  I love that!
There are still things that I want to do, accomplish, and be.  But this one moment in my life has changed my view of who I am and has led me to accept things about myself that are just fine, thank you very much.  🙂

What can you embrace in yourself starting right now as being a part of what makes you uniquely you?  Recognize it, own it, embrace you.  Change what you want, keep what you want, but embracing you is a beautiful step towards freedom.  Love to you, my tribe of Lemonaders!
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