Women over 40

Wrenches in the Trenches

Wrenches in the Trenches are not your average, every day kind of hiccups in life.  It’s when you’re on a streak of them that they become wrenches in the trenches.  The last couple weeks of mine have been definite wrenches in the trenches and it’s not ready to stop just yet.  I’m going to share some of this with you only as example, not to be hugely negative.  (I promise to end on a positive note!)

My Wrenches This Last Week

My husband and I own a business and while I’ve stepped mostly away to build up Lauri’s Lemonade Stand, I’m still pretty involved.  Nothing at that business happens at a convenient time.  For example, let’s have our production manager quit without notice and then all of a sudden all of our clients need their orders yesterday.  Then two days later your part-timer calls in sick and the day after that your other one does as well.  Because this business pays ALL of our bills right now, that means that not only do my husband and I drop everything to keep it going, but my daughter as well.  Talk about a family business!  And it hasn’t stopped.

My daughter has finished high school, finished a vocational school and only has two mock state board finals to complete before graduating and then taking the state boards on April 3rd.  She called the school admin and set up two dates, but that admin didn’t tell the other admin and her dates got taken.  Even though we had set up everything with everyone to be there so now we are scrambling to get her a new model (thermolysis – permanent hair removal – have to bring your own model) on the only two dates they have left and one is the day before state boards meaning that if she doesn’t pass, can’t take state boards.

And then there’s the rain.  I love rain!  But not when it has the possibility of bringing flash floods to recent burn areas or cancels our mountain bike race for the weekend for our local high school mountain bike team and we are scrambling for practices or possible spin classes.  That also means canceling hotels, changing plans, re-booking hotels for the next race, etc.  I got most of my money back, but others refused a refund.

Last one…then there’s my dumb thyroid and the needle biopsy that hurt like the dickens and bruised my neck only to have the results come back inconclusive and being sent out for genetic testing that will take weeks to get those results.  Not freaking out, but definitely a wrench psychologically to have to wait.

Combatting the Wrenches

When life throws more than little hiccups your direction and there seems to be a steady stream, those are your wrenches in the trenches moments.  Here’s what I do to combat feeling despair during these crazy life wrenches:

  1. I do the best I can.  I make a list and that list is filled with more stuff than I could ever accomplish in a day and I know it.  I then write the numbers 1-3 of the things that are the most important and I start there.  If I finish those three, I make another priority of the next 3.  And then I let it go.  Oh, I’ll get stressed, but I try to do my best and let the rest go.
  2. I find at least one thing to be grateful for daily.  There is something in every day and I write mine in a 5-year journal I keep at my bedside every night.  Focusing on something good, writing down, and then I get bonus points if I share it with my hubby cause talking about that good thing makes me happy.
  3. Look for the silver lining or the lesson learned.  I truly believe that things happen for a reason.  While our business is still struggling to get caught up, we are grateful to have hired a wonderful new production manager and am embracing the fact that we have lots of work to do which brings us monetary blessings like paying for our mortgage and eating.  Kinda important things, right?  My daughter was able to find a model for tomorrow and I firmly believe there’s a reason why her schedule got re-arranged.  Maybe in finding the new model she’ll meet someone new.  Maybe it will be good to do a mock final the day before her state boards so it will be fresh in her memory.  I can’t always immediately see the blessing, but I’m on the look out for it!  And the rain with the races?  Turns out I only lost $6.84 cents for my hotel.  I won’t be attending the re-scheduled race because my oldest daughter and my two grandbabies are coming for a visit and that fact alone will save me 6 hours of driving.  That’s a blessing!  I’m praying that we will not have flash floods, but I am grateful for the much-needed rain in California.
  4. Last, but certainly not least.  If all else fails, give up.  Oh, I don’t mean permanently, but sometimes you need to just set everything aside, grab your favorite food and chick flick and zone out.  Those problems aren’t going anywhere.  Tell them all to take a time-out, re-group yourself and come at it fresh tomorrow.

Wrenches in the Trenches are inevitable, but they do pass.  If you’re in one now, I feel ya.  The struggle is real.  Take heart, this too shall pass.

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Episode 000-The Podcast

Lauri’s Lemonade Stand
A Positivity Podcast for Women


Hello, Lemonaders!  My name is Lauri Mackey and I created Lauri’s Lemonade Stand to help women over 40 either enhance who we already are or if needed, to start from scratch to re-create ourselves and figure out who we want to be when we grow up.  To do this, we need inspiration from others who have gone before us or who are living that reality right now.  Most of the positivity podcast is interview-based so that we can hear others stories of hope and empowerment.  To hear from others who have hit rock bottom and found the only way to go was or is up.  As Stephanie McKenzie stated in her podcast episode 017, we are here to help those who haven’t reached where we are yet and also look forward to those who have already been where we are now.  Here is a good example of what I’m talking about:
During my very first interview, 001 Rebecca Rusch, who is a multi-world champion mountain biker, author, speaker and all around bad-ass that I admire discussed how more women were getting into mountain-biking, but that the the sport is mostly male-dominated.  Basically, we ride with guys more than we do gals.  We talked about how we can watch a guy take some technical section, make it look easy, but that we still may be reluctant or hesitant to try it ourselves.  Then we get our gal friend, like Lindsey Voreis on episode 003 who is also an awesome mountain biker and teaches other women confidence throught this amazing sport take the same technical section and it gives us the courage and strength to try it ourselves.  In other words, as women, we need each other!
We need each other to create courage, give each other strength, build each other up and create contagious energy to do and be better.  To take our “sucking lemons” moments and turn them into sweet lemonade.
Some of the other podcasts, while still interview-based are just fun, like episode 012 where Irene Thomas teaches us how to Geocache or Jo Ellen Soesbee who is the Tool Box Tom Girl in episode 004 who will inspire you to pick up those tools and do it yourself before ever making a phone call to the handyman.
Another fun part of every episode are the Lemonade Moments I ask at the end of every interview to my guests.  Because I am constantly putting them on the hot seat, I thought I should also have to answer these questions myself so here goes:
Question #1 – Name one activity you do every day without fail?  Well, the obvious answer was brush and floss my teeth, but my official answer is reading my scriptures, writing in my journal and saying a prayer to do good that day.  Question #2 – Favorite Guilty Pleasure Food?  French Fries from Veggie Grill!!  Not the kind you get at fast food joints, the thick, covered in fun seasoning kind of fries.  I would say the runner up to that would be the banana chocolate peanut butter vegan soft-serve my dear hubby makes for me when I have a sweet tooth.  Did I mention I was vegan?  Question #3 – Biggest Pet Peeve?  The buttons at crosswalks!!  Seriously, do you ever see those people standing there hitting that button a thousand times until they get the light?  It doesn’t matter if you push it once or a hundred times…the light is going to change at the same time.  Somewhere along the line someone told someone else that the more times you push it the more people it thinks is standing there so it will change faster.  Big lie!  It doesn’t think at all, hello!  It will change just as fast for the one as for the dozen.  Yep…feel a little passionate about that one!  Haha!  Question #4 – Favorite Quote I’m loving right now.  Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly until you learn to do it well by Zig Ziglar.  Hence this podcast!  Or writing a blog, or learning a new skill on a bike.  You have to start somewhere…the most important thing to do is to start!
Question #5 and the last one – What’s the biggest thing I’ve accomplished since turning 40.  Graduating high school for sure!  It was seriously one of the hardest things I did as an adult!  You can check out episode 013 to get the full scoop but let me just say that it’s way harder as an adult to graduate than as a teenager.  Tell your teenagers to stay in school!!
What are some of the other things I’ve accomplished since turning 40?  After graduating high school, becoming a certified Starchivore, earning a certificate in plant-based nutrition through eCornell University, becoming a Certified health coach through The Institute of Integrative Nutrition, establishing Lauri’s Lemonade Stand Blog/Podcast/Website/Facebook page, becoming an Inspirational Speaker with training from YSU and Lisa Nichols Motivating the Masses, earning my Young Women’s medallion through the Personal Progress program, racing mountain bikes and becoming a mountain bike coach to our local high school team. Seriously, ladies…if I can do it…anyone can!
What are my next goals?  To write a book!  I have been taking all sorts of courses and researching what it takes to write a book.  How to publish traditionally or self-publish, what to write about that will make the most difference in helping other women accomplish their goals.  Just to hold myself accountable, I’m setting a date to release a book by Christmas 2017.  That gives me just over a year to get it written and sorted out.  A noble goal and I can’t wait to share it with all of you!
Ladies, this positivity podcast for women was created out of love to offer support in your journey.  Wherever you are, you are right where you are supposed to be.  I’m betting that if you have 45 minutes per week to listen while you’re driving, working out, or just hanging at home you will feel the love and inspiration of these wonderful women.  That you won’t feel so alone in your journey.  That you will feel empowered to do and be whatever your little heart desires.
If you need daily doses of positivity – checkout my Facebook Page called Lauri’s Lemonade Stand.  
For weekly doses of positivity – you can check out my blog at laurislemonadestand.blogspot.com.  
And for the best lemonade recipe ever, check out my website at laurislemonadestand.com.  If you subscribe to my email list and I sure hope you do, you will also get “Eddy’s 60 Days of Sunshine” pdf for FREE to help create positive, lemonade moments in the life of someone you love who may be feeling down.

Looking forward to sharing this podcast journey with you and wishing you all the best in whatever you are pursuing right now.  I would love to hear from you so please, pretty please chime in in the rate and review of this podcast and subscribe because iTunes will make sure it gets out there to more women of our tribe and don’t forget to hit “like” on Facebook!  Love to you all, My Lemonaders in Training!  Enjoy the show and thank you for listening!

Random Blog Day

     Random Blog Day 

     As I write this blog, I’ve realized how much I enjoy podcasting!  Every week I Skype my mentor buddies, Elizabeth and Laurence and we talk about our life struggles, where our podcasts are and where we want them to go and encourage each other to do and be more.  Each of us have different struggles on our journey which means that the solutions vary as much as the struggles themselves do.

     I completely enjoy writing, but something about listening and connecting to someone in person over a podcast is so much more moving.  I love the written word and can’t keep my nose out of a book, but I’ve decided to take my blog to random status.  It will no longer be a weekly blog (unlike my podcast that comes out every single Monday without fail!), but to a “so inspired have to write this to everyone” status of randomness.

     I am appreciating all of your responses and feedback to everything I’m trying to accomplish by bringing positivity into the lives of women!  Keep it coming!  You can catch me on iTunes every week by clicking here:  Lauri’s Lemonade Stand Positivity Podcast for Women or on Facebook by clicking here:  Lauri’s Lemonade Stand Facebook Positivity or simply visiting me on my website by clicking here:  https://laurislemonadestand.com/

Thank you for your love and dedication!  
Wishing you the best in positivity today and all the days ahead!

Who I Am

Who I Am
Learning to Sleep in the Bed that I Made
     No TV.  Ok, well I do own a TV and am honestly a huge movie buff with lots of movies and some sitcoms, but I do not have a cable network of any kind.  No channels.  No commercials.  Been that way for over 20 years now.  I still get hooked on sitcoms!  I owned every season of Gilmore Girls and if Agents of Shield has a season on DVD, I’ve bought it and watched it in marathon order over a couple of weeks (if it lasts that long).
     My current addiction is Arrow.  In a recent episode I learned the origins of the character, Felicity Smoak.  (Third Season in case any of you are Arrow buffs, too)  While it wasn’t anything too horrific…think Bimbo mom and illegal computer hacking stuff, it was something that she was embarrassed and ashamed of.
     One of the point’s I’d like to make is that we all have things in our past that we are both embarrassed or ashamed of.  The first of those are the decisions that we have no control over.  Felicity did not choose her mom or her circumstances growing up.  The second are decisions we make that may cause shame as we see them as mistakes or just plain ugly bad choices.  In Felicity’s example it was creating a super crazy computer virus from her college hacker days and nearly spending her life in prison.
     But where is she now?  Working for a millionaire dude (who’s handsome and sexy by the way) and The Arrow as a computer genius who is calm under pressure, knows her stuff inside and out, and has made herself indispensable.  She is also friendly and is loved by just about everyone who meets her (except the bad guys, of course).
Which brings me to my second point.  Her upbringing and her so-called “mistakes” brought her to this part of her life.  Her life is not without mistakes now and it’s not perfect, but those life experiences made her who she is today.  They shaped her into the woman she has become.
     Your life up to this point has made you who you are today.  Right now in this present moment.  Who are you?  Where did you come from and where are you going?  I’ve been pondering a lot about this lately in my own life.

This is WHO I WAS:

     I believe my upbringing was pretty darn good.  My mom taught me to choose the right and how to be strong.  She showed me that she was human and made mistakes like everyone else. I learned to ride horses, ride a bike, and do good in school.  I loved to read and compete in spelling bees!  In unfortunate typical fashion, my parents were divorced when I was 11 and my mom re-married a wonderful man with 5 boys.  As per usual in most divorced families, it’s just tough.  Tough to figure out your identity, tough to reconcile your mom and dad not being together.  Tough to adjust to doubling your family size and learning to get along with not only 2 brothers, but 7!  (It’s just a flat out miracle that mom was never committed to a looney bin.  She gets huge props for that.).
     Imagine 9 kids; 7 boys and 2 girls all under the age of 11.  I know I had it tough, but my mom and step-dad are down-right saints in my book.  We were all on the local swim team and all of us did some kind of sports.  I remember doing basketball for 6 years, soccer for 3 and swim team for 3.  I was also in the band with a killer marching ensemble for parades and half-time shows.  My parents did the best they could and honestly, even though I might not have agreed with my mom and dad’s “parenting skills” (what child does??) if I had followed their advice, my life would have turned out better than the decisions I made for myself.
     The rest is all me.  I made my bed and I laid in it.  Every good and bad decision was up to me.  It still is.  I’ve learned a lot about myself.  I’ve learned that I love to work outside the home.  I love the challenge of new opportunities.  I’ve been a property manager, an Ombudsman to a Naval Ship during the 9/11 conflict, worked for the Navy-Marine Corps Relief Society, made burgers as the Drive-Thru Queen of Burger King (age 18, cut me some slack for that one), lasted one whole week at Taco Bell, sold MaryKay and Pampered Chef, and yes, even the dreaded Amway for a spell.  I’ve owned my own business for a lot of years and was even a stay-at-home mom 9 years straight which was the hardest “job” I’ve ever had in my life.
      I’ve been married more than a few times with the common denominator of failure always being me in those relationships.  My two older kids are no doubtedly scarred for life due to my inability to have, find, and keep good marriage relationships.  While it is not an easy thing to talk about or simply admit, it is most definitely part of my past that made me who I am today.

This is WHO I AM:

     I am in a beautiful marriage relationship with my best friend and hero, Eddy.  He has given me a safe place to grow and learn about myself and who I have the potential to become.  I will forever be indebted to him.
     I love to sing.  I like to knit and hate to scrapbook.  I love riding my mountain bike and I love to cook.  I like making my house feel like a home where anyone that comes in will feel comfortable and at ease.  I stink at keeping green things alive.  Many a plant has died at my hands over the years.  I love to read Louis L’amour and I love to watch action movies and chick flicks.  I love to speak with people and connect with them.  I love the mountains, but don’t much care for the beach.
     I believe in God and love my church family because they show love to me unconditionally.  I am a WFPB health crusader (yes, I eat plants and yes, I get enough protein).  I have two dogs that are sweet as pie.  They are both black and both boys.  It seemed only fair as I have three daughters and my hubby was the only testosterone representative in the house.  I love making goals and then checking them off my list.  Did I mention I was a list-maker?  I LOVE LISTS!  The best part of my lists is marking the things off I’ve accomplished.
     Some of my favorite things are freshly cleaned sheets, new pillows, the sound of the dishwasher or dryer running, Kelly Rae Roberts, my courtyard fountain, the smell of jasmine in full bloom, Brooks Cascadia trail-running shoes, and getting packages in the mail.

This is WHO I AM BECOMING:

     First and foremost, I am always working on being more kind and being of service.  First to my husband and children, then my neighbors and then my community and ultimately the world.  I’m also working on being more cheerful and not complaining so much about bad drivers.  🙂
     I’ve recently started collecting pull-over hoodies…don’t know if that trend will stick, but it seemed worth mentioning.
     I want to learn how to pop a wheelie on my mountain bike.  I want to replace the rest of my VHS tapes with DVD’s.  I want to take a trip to Whistler and ride some killer trails up there.  I want to find out who my Gram’s biological parents were as she was adopted at age 5.
     I want to write a book, public speak to women who need a confidence boost and power uplift in their lives.  I want to do a weekly podcast starting in February of 2016 to support these same women to help them believe they are capable of more than they think.
     I just had to highlight this last paragraph in orange because I’ve accomplished it since I wrote this post in October of 2015.  My book came out in 2018 and the podcast is now over 2 years old – go me!  I would like to do more speaking to women, but I have done that as well.  Setting goals is oh so important!  Party in the house right now after reading this again!!!
     Oh, and I want to own a Model X Tesla…

Dream Car Tesla

Please comment below and tell me some things you already know about yourself.  Be proud!

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