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Jo Ellen Soesbee Lauri Mackey Lauri's Lemonade Stand podcast positivity smile smiling toolboxtomgirlBy Lauri Mackey — 3 years agoPractice SmilingWhen I was interviewing Jo Ellen Soesbee last week for my podcast, she said something towards the end that I couldn’t stop thinking about. She was driving along and happened to notice that she could see the driver in front of her in his side-view mirror and she thought, “Does that mean that others can see me in my side-view mirror?”Apparently, the gentleman in front of her did not look very happy. In fact, he looked downright grumpy by all accounts. That’s when Jo Ellen decided to practice smiling. She didn’t want people to think that she was grumpy!This practice served her well when a client called and said, “I hired you because when I saw you in your truck, you were smiling.” Wow! Landing a job because you smiled while you were driving!Jo Ellen has practiced smiling so much that on a recent girl’s weekend her friends accused her of even smiling in her sleep! Now that’s some serious smile practicing if you ask me. 🙂I decided I would try it out and over this last week I’ve simply tried to smile while I was driving. Honestly, I felt pretty silly at first and if I knew someone was close enough to see me I acted as if I was listening to some funny comedian on the radio and laughed out loud!While I am not perfect at this smiling while I’m driving thing, it has changed my attitude while I drive to be a little more polite and a little more understanding of others while they drive.Smiling matters!!I will keep practicing, Jo Ellen! To hear more on Jo Ellen Soesbee come on over to the podcast, Lauri’s Lemonade Stand on iTunes by following this link: Lauri’s Lemonade Stand Positivity Podcast I bet you won’t be disappointed!
By Lauri Mackey — 11 months ago
Wrenches in the Trenches are not your average, every day kind of hiccups in life. It’s when you’re on a streak of them that they become wrenches in the trenches. The last couple weeks of mine have been definite wrenches in the trenches and it’s not ready to stop just yet. I’m going to share some of this with you only as example, not to be hugely negative. (I promise to end on a positive note!)
My Wrenches This Last Week
My husband and I own a business and while I’ve stepped mostly away to build up Lauri’s Lemonade Stand, I’m still pretty involved. Nothing at that business happens at a convenient time. For example, let’s have our production manager quit without notice and then all of a sudden all of our clients need their orders yesterday. Then two days later your part-timer calls in sick and the day after that your other one does as well. Because this business pays ALL of our bills right now, that means that not only do my husband and I drop everything to keep it going, but my daughter as well. Talk about a family business! And it hasn’t stopped.
My daughter has finished high school, finished a vocational school and only has two mock state board finals to complete before graduating and then taking the state boards on April 3rd. She called the school admin and set up two dates, but that admin didn’t tell the other admin and her dates got taken. Even though we had set up everything with everyone to be there so now we are scrambling to get her a new model (thermolysis – permanent hair removal – have to bring your own model) on the only two dates they have left and one is the day before state boards meaning that if she doesn’t pass, can’t take state boards.
And then there’s the rain. I love rain! But not when it has the possibility of bringing flash floods to recent burn areas or cancels our mountain bike race for the weekend for our local high school mountain bike team and we are scrambling for practices or possible spin classes. That also means canceling hotels, changing plans, re-booking hotels for the next race, etc. I got most of my money back, but others refused a refund.
Last one…then there’s my dumb thyroid and the needle biopsy that hurt like the dickens and bruised my neck only to have the results come back inconclusive and being sent out for genetic testing that will take weeks to get those results. Not freaking out, but definitely a wrench psychologically to have to wait.
Combatting the Wrenches
When life throws more than little hiccups your direction and there seems to be a steady stream, those are your wrenches in the trenches moments. Here’s what I do to combat feeling despair during these crazy life wrenches:
- I do the best I can. I make a list and that list is filled with more stuff than I could ever accomplish in a day and I know it. I then write the numbers 1-3 of the things that are the most important and I start there. If I finish those three, I make another priority of the next 3. And then I let it go. Oh, I’ll get stressed, but I try to do my best and let the rest go.
- I find at least one thing to be grateful for daily. There is something in every day and I write mine in a 5-year journal I keep at my bedside every night. Focusing on something good, writing down, and then I get bonus points if I share it with my hubby cause talking about that good thing makes me happy.
- Look for the silver lining or the lesson learned. I truly believe that things happen for a reason. While our business is still struggling to get caught up, we are grateful to have hired a wonderful new production manager and am embracing the fact that we have lots of work to do which brings us monetary blessings like paying for our mortgage and eating. Kinda important things, right? My daughter was able to find a model for tomorrow and I firmly believe there’s a reason why her schedule got re-arranged. Maybe in finding the new model she’ll meet someone new. Maybe it will be good to do a mock final the day before her state boards so it will be fresh in her memory. I can’t always immediately see the blessing, but I’m on the look out for it! And the rain with the races? Turns out I only lost $6.84 cents for my hotel. I won’t be attending the re-scheduled race because my oldest daughter and my two grandbabies are coming for a visit and that fact alone will save me 6 hours of driving. That’s a blessing! I’m praying that we will not have flash floods, but I am grateful for the much-needed rain in California.
- Last, but certainly not least. If all else fails, give up. Oh, I don’t mean permanently, but sometimes you need to just set everything aside, grab your favorite food and chick flick and zone out. Those problems aren’t going anywhere. Tell them all to take a time-out, re-group yourself and come at it fresh tomorrow.
Wrenches in the Trenches are inevitable, but they do pass. If you’re in one now, I feel ya. The struggle is real. Take heart, this too shall pass.
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#InternationalWomensDay #makelemonade Chef AJ Danielle Omar Elizabeth Johnston Jenny Oaks Baker Jo Ellen Soesbee Joi Whaley Kristi Ling Lauri's Lemonade Stand Lindsey Richter Merrilee Boyack Rebecca RuschBy Lauri Mackey — 2 years agoInternational Women’s Day!At Lauri’s Lemonade Stand we Celebrate Women Every Day!I love days when we celebrate the women in our lives! Today, I thought I would simply give a huge shout-out to all of the women who agreed to be on my podcast. It’s been almost a year (next month) and those early birds truly were taking a chance on me in being among the first to come under the interview knife so to speak as I was learning to fly. Thank you!Over the next 4 weeks I will celebrate them in 10’s so as not to overwhelm you with too much information. Here are the first 10 episodes of Lauri’s Lemonade Stand, a Positivity Podcast for Women…it just keeps getting better and better and I was fortunate to have this heavy hitters in my opening episodes.Rebecca Rusch on episode #001 who’s career highlights include:Joi Whaley who is the co-owner and founder of our local all-organic, all-vegan favorite restaurant, Joi Cafe’ in Westlake Village, episode #002. She is a HUGE advocate for women’s rights!Lindsey Richter – The founder of Ladies AllRide has a mission: Change women’s lives with two wheels and some dirt. Of all her wild life experiences (like being a Reality TV star on the CBS show: Survivor) it was mountain biking that taught Lindsey life is about CREATING yourself, not finding yourself. Now as a world-renowned leader in the women’s mountain bike movement, Lindsey spreads her passion for mountain biking across the globe through innovative and inspirational skills camps. Listen to her episode #003 and share in the magic!Jo Ellen Soesbee is the ToolBoxTomGirl! Listen to her episode #004 on the guts it took to make it in a men’s world and how her woman’s touch was just what everyone was looking for by way of service. The award-winning Tool Girl will steal your heart and inspire you to make it no matter what your field of expertise or business.Chef AJ has been devoted to a plant-based diet for almost 40 years. She is the host of the television series Healthy Living with CHEF AJ which airs on Foody TV. With her comedy background, she has made appearances on The Tonight Show Starring Johnny Carson, The Tonight Show with Jay Leno, The Late Show with David Letterman and more. A chef, culinary instructor and professional speaker, she is author of the popular book Unprocessed: How to Achieve Vibrant Health and Your Ideal Weight, which chronicles her journey from a junk-food vegan faced with a diagnosis of pre-cancerous polyps, to learning how to create foods that nourish and heal the body. Episode #005 on iTunes!
Kristi Ling‘s new book will give you insights on how to be happy anytime, anywhere by practicing! In Operation Happiness, happiness strategist and life coach Kristi Ling teaches you how to create immediate, positive shifts in your life by proving that happiness is a skill that can be cultivated, learned, and mastered-much like playing an instrument. Learn more about her life and book in Episode #006.
Merrilee Boyack is an author multiple times over with hits such as “Toss the Guilt and Catch the Joy: A Woman’s Guide to a Better Life”, “Strangling Your Husband is NOT an Option: A Practical Guide to Dramatically Improving Your Marriage“ and “Standing Up in a Sit-Down World” along with multiple children’s books that I adore. Not only is she a speaker and author, she just so happens to be my Trust Attorney. Go figure! Check her out on Episode #007 on iTunes or Google Play.Danielle Omar, RD is an Integrative Dietitian, Nutrition Consultant and founder of FoodConfidence.com, where busy men and women find the path to confidently manage their health and how they eat. Her clients not only reach their weight and wellness goals, but also embrace a new way of looking at food and nutrition. Through her own lifestyle example and her inherent gift of teaching, Danielle guides her clients through a transformation from old eating patterns to a renewed way of life. After working with Danielle, clients are left with a deeper understanding of the obstacles that led to unhealthy nutrition habits, and how to remove those obstacles, rather than work around them temporarily. Her amazing insights can be heard on Episode #008 on iTunes or Google Play.Jenny Oaks Baker America’s Violinist, Jenny Oaks Baker is a Grammy Nominated, Billboard No. 1 performer and recording artist. She received her Master of Music degree from the renowned Juilliard School in New York City and her Bachelor’s Degree in violin performance from the Curtis Institute of Music in Philadelphia. She has performed as a soloist at Carnegie Hall, Lincoln Center, Strathmore Hall, the Library of Congress and as a guest soloist with The National Symphony, Jerusalem Symphony, Pittsburgh Symphony, San Diego Symphony, Utah Symphony, and the internationally acclaimed Mormon Tabernacle Choir. Over the years Jenny has collaborated with such luminaries as Gladys Knight, Kurt Bestor, Marvin Hamlisch, and the former Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice.Jenny has released fifteen studio albums since 1998. They have sold over half a million copies and consistently chart on Billboard. Jenny’s emotionally stirring music has also been featured on the soundtracks of many films, and her popular music videos can be viewed on her Youtube Channel. Her interview can be heard on Episode #009 on iTunes or Google Play.Elizabeth Johnston of Own Your Creativity has helped me in writing my memoirs and owning my creativity around my podcast as one of my accountability partners. From manuscript feedback to helping businesses write their own stories to screenplay writing help, Elizabeth is a master in her field. Listen to her Episode #010 and find out what your next step is in writing your memoir, screenplay or business story. She rocks!