Are we there yet? One of the things I talk about is not believing in Happy Endings. I don’t believe in happy endings. While you may be aghast at the thought…let me shed some light on my thinking.
First, fairytale happy endings are not happy endings at all. All fairytale happy endings just stop when the going got good or hit a high point. It’s a happy moment, but not a happy ending. Life goes on and it will not always be a picturesque scene with the perfectly cued music in the background. Cinderella had to learn how to live with Prince Charming and manage a castle.
Second, I believe that our spirit goes on forever…therefore there is no ending. I am an eternal being that will never reach the end so therefore I’m not waiting for my happy ending…I better figure it out right now. If I can’t be happy right now then what’s the point? This fosters the belief that it’s ok to be happy today and not save it for a tomorrow that might not ever come.
Third and last, I always want to be becoming or arriving. I don’t want to become or arrive because that denotes an ending. I don’t want to ask the question, “are we there yet?” because I want to enjoy the journey not just the destination. Tim Ferris talks about mini-retirements in his book, The 4-Hour WorkWeek because he doesn’t want to arrive at retirement. He wants to enjoy life in the here and now. I like that idea.
If yesterday is gone and can only be used as a learning tool and you can’t touch a tomorrow, what does that leave us? TODAY!! If you aren’t happy today, then what’s the point? There is something to be grateful for and happy about every single day, period. Even when going through hard times, there is ALWAYS something to be grateful for and happy about.
Because of all of this I would like to dub myself a Student 4 Life. I always want to be striving for and learning new things. I want to be in a constant state of becoming. At this point in my life I believe I’ve shed the caterpillar part of me and become a butterfly, but my journey doesn’t stop there. I want to add more color to my wings.
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By Lauri Mackey — 8 months ago
Wrenches in the Trenches are not your average, every day kind of hiccups in life. It’s when you’re on a streak of them that they become wrenches in the trenches. The last couple weeks of mine have been definite wrenches in the trenches and it’s not ready to stop just yet. I’m going to share some of this with you only as example, not to be hugely negative. (I promise to end on a positive note!)
My Wrenches This Last Week
My husband and I own a business and while I’ve stepped mostly away to build up Lauri’s Lemonade Stand, I’m still pretty involved. Nothing at that business happens at a convenient time. For example, let’s have our production manager quit without notice and then all of a sudden all of our clients need their orders yesterday. Then two days later your part-timer calls in sick and the day after that your other one does as well. Because this business pays ALL of our bills right now, that means that not only do my husband and I drop everything to keep it going, but my daughter as well. Talk about a family business! And it hasn’t stopped.
My daughter has finished high school, finished a vocational school and only has two mock state board finals to complete before graduating and then taking the state boards on April 3rd. She called the school admin and set up two dates, but that admin didn’t tell the other admin and her dates got taken. Even though we had set up everything with everyone to be there so now we are scrambling to get her a new model (thermolysis – permanent hair removal – have to bring your own model) on the only two dates they have left and one is the day before state boards meaning that if she doesn’t pass, can’t take state boards.
And then there’s the rain. I love rain! But not when it has the possibility of bringing flash floods to recent burn areas or cancels our mountain bike race for the weekend for our local high school mountain bike team and we are scrambling for practices or possible spin classes. That also means canceling hotels, changing plans, re-booking hotels for the next race, etc. I got most of my money back, but others refused a refund.
Last one…then there’s my dumb thyroid and the needle biopsy that hurt like the dickens and bruised my neck only to have the results come back inconclusive and being sent out for genetic testing that will take weeks to get those results. Not freaking out, but definitely a wrench psychologically to have to wait.
Combatting the Wrenches
When life throws more than little hiccups your direction and there seems to be a steady stream, those are your wrenches in the trenches moments. Here’s what I do to combat feeling despair during these crazy life wrenches:
- I do the best I can. I make a list and that list is filled with more stuff than I could ever accomplish in a day and I know it. I then write the numbers 1-3 of the things that are the most important and I start there. If I finish those three, I make another priority of the next 3. And then I let it go. Oh, I’ll get stressed, but I try to do my best and let the rest go.
- I find at least one thing to be grateful for daily. There is something in every day and I write mine in a 5-year journal I keep at my bedside every night. Focusing on something good, writing down, and then I get bonus points if I share it with my hubby cause talking about that good thing makes me happy.
- Look for the silver lining or the lesson learned. I truly believe that things happen for a reason. While our business is still struggling to get caught up, we are grateful to have hired a wonderful new production manager and am embracing the fact that we have lots of work to do which brings us monetary blessings like paying for our mortgage and eating. Kinda important things, right? My daughter was able to find a model for tomorrow and I firmly believe there’s a reason why her schedule got re-arranged. Maybe in finding the new model she’ll meet someone new. Maybe it will be good to do a mock final the day before her state boards so it will be fresh in her memory. I can’t always immediately see the blessing, but I’m on the look out for it! And the rain with the races? Turns out I only lost $6.84 cents for my hotel. I won’t be attending the re-scheduled race because my oldest daughter and my two grandbabies are coming for a visit and that fact alone will save me 6 hours of driving. That’s a blessing! I’m praying that we will not have flash floods, but I am grateful for the much-needed rain in California.
- Last, but certainly not least. If all else fails, give up. Oh, I don’t mean permanently, but sometimes you need to just set everything aside, grab your favorite food and chick flick and zone out. Those problems aren’t going anywhere. Tell them all to take a time-out, re-group yourself and come at it fresh tomorrow.
Wrenches in the Trenches are inevitable, but they do pass. If you’re in one now, I feel ya. The struggle is real. Take heart, this too shall pass.
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#makelemonade journaling journals Lauri's Lemonade Stand Laurie Blackwell travel journal UncategorizedBy Lauri Mackey — 2 years ago25 Kinds of Journals to KeepIn a recent podcast interview with Laurie Blackwell (Episode 27), we talked the inside out and sideways of journal writing. Upon finding out our mutual passion of the subject, Laurie created this amazing list that includes 25 different kinds of journals you could create.Laurie also teaches online journaling classes at www.laurieblackwell.com.Check out the podcast interview here. Enjoy and get journaling!25 Kinds of Journals to Keep
- A Diary :: a fictional pen-pal to write to about all of your happenings and feelings
- A Historical Record of Days :: think Lewis and Clark, complete with weather reports and sketches of objects encountered
- An Art Journal :: filled with pages of color, collage, drawings
- A Travel Journal :: a reflection on and memories concerning a trip away from home
- A Pen-Pal Journal :: You complete a page, send it to a friend who makes a page and sends it back to you
- A Grief Journal :: a way to remember and honor someone you loved and now miss
- A Positivity Journal :: a book to keep all happy thoughts and good happenings in so you can remember how wonderful life really is
- A Wish Journal :: a place to keep all those things (thoughts, clippings, pictures) of the things your heart desires
- A Dream Journal :: record the subconscious happenings in your mind while you sleep (upon waking up, of course)
- A Family Journal :: a place where everyone in the household can express themselves whenever they like (such a keepsake!)
- A Letters Journal :: where you write all the letters you will never send but have to put out there
- A Book Journal :: a record of all the books you read – when, what, and your own personal review
- A Bullet Journal :: the ultimate “get it done” way to organize
- A Relationship Journal :: a place to store mementos, dates, and details about your life together
- Wonderful Words Journal :: put all the words that sound beautiful or mean something special to you in this book, including their definitions
- A Poetry Journal :: write down all your favorite poems, the ones that really move you, all in one journal
- A Place to Vent Journal :: All the stuff you’d like to get off your chest; write it down here and when the journal is full, throw it away!
- The Things I Never Want to Forget Journal :: memories throughout your life that you want to treasure forever
- A Journal of My Favorites :: a place to record all those things you love the most, like your favorite restaurant, movie, song, scent, season…
- A Journal of Recipes :: all the tried and true yummy food and the ones you’d like to make
- A Patterns Journal :: patterns you love – pieces cut from cloth, magazines, catalogs, and drawings of patterns that you’ve seen or from your imagination
- A Healthy Me Journal :: what you eat each day, goals for being healthier, an exercise log, etc.
- A Journal for Doodles :: a place to draw to your heart’s content
- A Money Journal :: where you record all the money that comes into your life and how you spend it; a pretty and concise way to watch your pennies
- A Reflections Journal :: an account of things you do and how they could be improved in the future; this is a game-changer
#InternationalWomensDay #makelemonade Ashlee Birk Cindy Joseph Hilary Hendershott Jill Hamilton Kelly Long Laurie Blackwell Sharon McRae Stephenie Zamora Wally Amos Whitney JohnsonBy Lauri Mackey — 2 years agoInternational Women’s Day Part 3 of 4!At Lauri’s Lemonade Stand we Celebrate Women Every Day!
The last two weeks have been so fun and we are halfway there! Celebrating the women of this first year of my podcast has been great for me. It is like a trip down memory lane as I review each of them in turn. Check out the little blurbs below, pick your poison and then enjoy the help that you will receive from these amazing women! Sending love and support out to you all!Kelly Long – No idea that Kelly Long would be so down to earth and full of energy and just plain fun until she agreed to be on this podcast. Not only did she have my vote in the election for County Supervisor, but she had my vote on how action leads to change. Learn more about this fun-loving, action-moving, full of persistence and grit personality and lay claim to some of it yourself by enjoying this episode!Sharon McRae – Sharon McRae will steal your heart and then give it back to you significantly healthier! She is available for coaching all across the United States and abroad. She is fun, full of life and abounding in tips to change your diet that will have you leaving the top killers of disease in the dust. Helpful hint? Check out her recipes on her website: eatwell-staywell.com!Ashlee Birk – Ashlee Birk had every reason to lay over and play dead after learning her husband had been shot and killed. Her world was shattered in a moment, but through these amazing trials she has learned to create new moments to stand for what she believes in. Through much prompting she then decided that others need to hear her story so that she can help others to stand as well. This is a true story of taking a seriously sucking lemons moment and finding the joy of how to make sweet lemonade.Stephenie Zamora – Fun! Fun! Fun! Yes, that is how I would describe my interview with Stephenie. Not only were we kindred spirits and found ourselves speaking more with our hands and facial expressions (wish you could have seen that!), but we just had a blast recording this interview. You will fall in love with Stephenie’s enthusiasm, but you will follow her through hell if she asked you to because like all of us, she has lived through some deep dark trauma that has shaken her to her core and had her building roots to stand the test of life. Listen to it, learn about it, apply the lessons in your own life where necessary.Whitney Johnson – Disrupt Yourself! Whitney is a wealth of information packed into a caring soul. She is just on a mission to help others become their best selves. You will definitely want to grab a pen and paper before sitting down to this episode as there are valuable nuggets throughout. This episode will give you insights and tools you can use immediately to start disrupting your life and dreaming big! For more of Whitney, check her out on Amazon, iTunes, and her website: whitneyjohnson.com. Happy disrupting!Wally Amos – Famous Amos Cookies founder, Wally Amos turned 80 years old this year! Why did I allow a guy on the show? Cause it’s Wally Amos! This awesome man is a positivity icon that I look up to with deep respect. He’s got humor, he’s got a positive attitude and he believes that the only thing that can get in our way is ourselves. He also believes that we are the only ones that get in the way of our own success. Have a listen and enjoy this lovely episode!Laurie Blackwell – Journaling is not only a passion of Laurie’s, but after this interview I realized it was also a passion of mine! (Maybe it’s something in the name Lauri…:) Realizing that I already had more of a habit in journaling than I ever knew, Laurie makes it easy to make this a life-long habit or just do it for FUN by taking one of her online courses. She offers 100 FREE journal prompts on her website and you won’t want to wait to visit with her because she is simply a pleasure and delight. Enjoy this journaling journey with Laurie Blackwell!Jill Hamilton – Petal Power! Jill is a women’s advocate for cycling and has taken her passion within the industry to entrepreneurship in her company, Petal Power. It is a plant-based, all natural Joy Ride System that was created for women by a woman. I’ve tried it out, loved it, won’t use anything else on my hoo-hoo, girly-bits, cooch, petals, tweeny…you get the idea when riding my bicycle or running. Get 10% off your first purchase with the code within the podcast. Enjoy this amazing visionary!Hilary Hendershott – Profit Boss Radio is my new go-to for financial wisdom specifically geared towards women. This episode is chock full of amazing information, but it also has a “sucking lemons” moment (more like years) for Hilary that makes her not only human, but a kick ass financial planner for those of us that need to change our money mindset and get out of our own way when it comes to our finances. Listen, be a sponge, take lots of notes, enjoy this episode!Cindy Joseph – BOOM! Cindy was most definitely a kindred spirit. We had similar beliefs, goals and I am so pleased she has coined this change in the universe to be called The Pro-Age Movement. To not just embrace our beautiful age, but to CELEBRATE it! I am a huge fan of her BOOM! by Cindy Joseph products and once you hear her story you will be too. Enjoy this feel-good episode!Don’t forget to leave your comments below, rate & review the podcast, and let me know who you would like to see on future episodes of the podcast!